James Brewins

[Stan Collymore @StanCollymore]

Suicide.

I'm choosing to be deliberately blunt and provocative in this post because it's necessary. Government, charities, football clubs are all pushing water up a hill in highlighting what is undoubtedly a major health crisis.

You take a rope.
You put it up in a garage or a tree nearby or far away.
You're thinking about every loved one you'll leave behind as you put that rope around your neck.
Then you drop.

Some are decapitated.
Some aren't.
All are found by someone who has a lifetime of trauma that will never leave them.
A son.
A daughter.
A brother.
A sister.
A mother.
A father.

I know 2 men who hung themselves.

One was found by his Mom.
One was found by his brother.
Neither have recovered fully. 20 and 30 years on.

A life sentence for people who were already worrying, terrified their loved one may do something.

So just visualise the above and ask, "is there another way"?

A segway for a moment.

I do a few Q&A's every year. Tales of yesterday with a 99% male audience of my age group.

After the stories and fun, my last question back to the audience is..

"Hands up if you struggle with a mental health issue".

Nobody ever puts a hand up. Despite 1 in every 3 of 500 attendees statistically struggling.

"Ah, nobody, that's fucking brilliant! Well I do! ". I then graphically tell people, stunned into silence about how a rope around my neck in the middle of nowhere jolted me to go home and cry like a baby to my Mom.

After the Q&A has finished, something always happens. I'll be chatting to a few guys, saying bye and one by one, men will come over and whisper " I struggle".

Or my mailbox the next day will have 30 emails from guys, their partners or kids saying " Dad/Uncle /Brother was there last night and what you said hit them hard".

And that's how some people realise that it's time to speak to a pal or family member or even rant to me in an email. It works, I often get a follow up email a year or 6 later saying that they took responsibility for their suicidal feelings and are now flying.

Humans are programmed to want to live, to have families and to keep the species growing and thriving. So for a human to want to short circuit that desire isn't normal, and it should never be spoken of as normal. It's the ultimate red flag.

If you suspect your mate, Dad, Brother, Uncle is struggling mentally, they deserve your intervention.

They deserve a " are you OK, please tell me what's up".

They deserve an opportunity to get past wanting to hang a rope over a tree or in a garage and slowly struggle until they die and you find them.

If you've been there and trust me I have plenty, then you'll know that text out of the blue, or a footie mate or one of your kids asking jow you are can open the curtains to some sunshine.

Because when suicide is your only answer, the room is already dark, and you can't see a way out.

So please, fucking pretty please, ask that husband, Dad, Uncle, Cousin, footie pal TODAY how they are.

You may be shocked what comes back but extremely glad that you asked.

For those who struggle, you're not alone.

[Sav Mondo @SavMondo]

I imagine this is the football version of when you call Sky to tell them that you’re leaving because you don’t like the service anymore and you end the call with 24 months of full fibre broadband, Sky Cinema, Sky Sports and a Sky Glass TV.

[RiverActionUK @RiverActionUK]

📢 Hey Mark Standish, are you listening?

Celebrities have joined our call to demand that you clean up @NandosUK's #polluting supply chains.

The future of Britain's rivers, & your reputation, depends on your next actions. We look forward to speaking with you soon.

@TheJimMurray

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@Betterhelpers hi, trying to dm but it wont let me as i apparently need premium. Need help with an old membership that should have been cancelled

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@elonmuskADO 👋

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@ZulTheBear 56

[Carl Frampton MBE @RealCFrampton]

Surly you'd expect someone like @piersmorgan to do at least a tiny bit of research on the credibility of the IBA before he starts tweeting about Imane Khelif 🤷‍♂️

[Laurence Fox @LozzaFox]

Amen.

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@koolmumuk @NormanBrennan Its Rainham, Essex. Just other side of the bridge.

[Clint Russell @LibertyLockPod]

Terrence Howard is either having a schizophrenic break or he's the smartest man alive and I'm too dumb to know which

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@JimmieShaman @MJTruthUltra

[Paul Roberts @roberts_pa76343]

#UJO
Now the dust has settled and as we await the flow results of the Andrews-1-17 well, is the company's 'major success' going to be more exciting than expected?

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#oil #oklahoma #andrews1well #bakkenshale #unionjackoil #reachoilangas

[James Melville 🚜 @JamesMelville]

Methane from cows is part of the biogenic carbon cycle that after 12 years breaks down into natural CO2 and water. Grass then absorbs the CO2 through photosynthesis, cows eat the grass and the cycle continues. We meddle with this cycle at our peril.

[Martin Lewis @MartinSLewis]

Pls share. The new PPI?

HUGE announcement from @theFCA this morning that has gone totally under the radar. It may mean a pay-out for millions who bought a car/van on Motor Finance before 2021.

I’ve done back of the envelope numbers and at the top end this could be PPI type scale (that was £40bn), big enough to be a form of Quantitative easing (so real consequences for the next govt as it’ll likely take a year).

It is to look at the handling of complaints about commissions when people got motor finance (pre 2021). Two big Ombudsman cases revealed today indicate that firms are falsely rejecting complaints and the FCA is now to do a full review of complaint handling.

The FCA wouldn’t do this unless it was likely to find they were doing it wrong. So my suspicion is when it finishes its investigation it will (in order of likelihood) set up either

a) A redress scheme where it orders all the firms to pay redress to every effected customer even if they've not complained.
b) Redress rules where it orders them to pay out redress based on a set formula, to those that complain

The pay out would be either the interest on loans (which is big), the commission (which is big), or the whole loan (which is huge). We're possibly talking thousands back for many.

Clearly this means getting complaints in if you were mis-sold is going to be crucial especially if they choose scheme b) and there is a cut off involved.

It should be noted part of the announcement is the FCA has put a freeze on firms handling complaints for now, so if you complain now they don’t have to do anything, but my provisional thoughts are it is worth people who think they’ve been mis-sold getting in a complaint now as a marker.

So my team and I will be working on a full guide on how to do that which we’ll have out in the next couple of weeks to talk you through this step-by-step. Please watch this space and share with people who may have been impacted.

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@skyebnic @MatchroomBoxing @DAZNBoxing The perfect woman doesn’t exi…………..

[Ricky Gervais @rickygervais]

If you’re feeling vulnerable tonight, remember, there are no such things as ghouls & ghosts, & zombies & vampires. LOL
There are of course murderers & deviants & drugged up mental cases & dirty little feral teenagers who stab you and stick it on TikTok .
Happy Halloween 🎃

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@OperatorTankAS @nootropicguy @PeterAttiaMD @hubermanlab And @BioLayne

[James Brewins @Brew85]

@dgjones @Tyson_Fury So fucking glad you’ve said that. I was thinking, “is it just me or is this absolutely diabolical”. I thought it was the start of the opening ceremony for world cup!