There is a certain type of person everywhere now, especially online.
He consumes endless information every day: philosophy, psychology, productivity, spirituality, neuroscience, business, self-improvement, history.
He knows a little about everything and deeply experiences almost nothing.
His entire identity becomes built around understanding instead of living.
He watches videos about confidence instead of speaking confidently. Reads about discipline instead of becoming disciplined. Studies relationships instead of learning how to love. Consumes motivational content instead of taking action.
He feels intelligent because he is constantly mentally stimulated. But stimulation is not transformation.
Most of the time, knowledge becomes emotional protection. Reality is unpredictable. Reality humiliates. Reality exposes weakness. Books and ideas do not.
Inside information, he can continue imagining himself as intelligent, deep, insightful, different from ordinary people. So he remains trapped in preparation.
He constantly feels as if he is "becoming" someone, while his real life remains strangely untouched. He develops sophisticated language for problems he never confronts directly. He can explain human behavior beautifully while being unable to handle ordinary discomfort, rejection, uncertainty, loneliness, or risk.
He slowly turns life into observation instead of participation.
The internet rewards this personality heavily. He receives validation for sounding aware rather than becoming capable.
Eventually, he begins confusing self-analysis with growth and information with wisdom.
But beneath the intelligence usually exists the same thing: fear. Fear of failure. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of reality answering back.
Because action destroys fantasy. The moment he truly acts, he can no longer hide inside potential.
Speech. The one thing that will literally 10x your life, that you do everyday, and you never consciously improve it.
You hit a 9th grade speaking level and stay there until you pass away.
Spending time listening to yourself speak, recording yourself, improving your vocabulary, removing filler words, and practicing tone is one skill that can improve so many areas of your life.
The easier you can communicate your ideas and feelings the more you can improve your success and relationships.
Start with recording yourself and removing filler words.
Gary Lineham says C-section babies show higher rates of ADHD, anxiety and depression.
When a baby goes through the birth canal, the head cones, then settles.
That lets the nine cranial bones seat properly so the skull can move and breathe.
A C-section skips that.
The frontal bone keeps a slight slope, and Lineham says that means less blood flow to the frontal lobe.
In the kids he's worked on, he ties that lost blood flow to:
• Higher rates of ADHD and anxiety
• Depression and eating disorders
• Digestive and hormone issues
"You correlate them to all sorts of other things."
The way your child arrived may explain more than anyone told you.
— Gary Lineham (.@HumanGarage) on the Ultimate Human podcast (.@ultimatehuman)
The older I get, the more I realize the power of always having something on the calendar you're excited about. It can really be anything. Difficult physical challenge, big project, fun trip, ambitious goal, whatever. It creates energy and gets you through the lows. Life hack.
This is biblical.
A woman in her eighties. Ten years into Alzheimer's. Hadn't spoken a full sentence in five years.
Takes one, 5 gram dose of psilocybin.
She slept 19 hours and woke up and spoke for hours about her life, recognized family and held real conversations. She regained bladder control after five years, walked on her own. and dressed herself. Gains held for weeks.
In recovery we learn the whole point is service.
Showing up for somebody besides yourself.
That’s leadership too.
Setting the tone.
Right now the tone is vengeance and yeah, I get the anger.
But anger isn’t leadership. It’s tyranny.
We can and should reach for each other. Demand better.
Conan’s riff on becoming a parent — and specifically how unexpectedly freeing it can be — has stuck in my brain ever since I heard it on the @BenSasse and @ChrisStirewalt podcast a few months ago.
Funny, true, heartfelt — aka classic Conan.
I can vouch for it ooo🗣️🗣️🗣️
I stopped using roll on and started using this. It cleared my dark armpit.
I used it for a month and started using antiperspirant instead of going back to roll on…