Dayna

[Orange Book 🍊📖 @orangebook]

A lot of success in life boils down to whether you can handle long periods of time alone undistracted, focused and diligently working on your long-term goals.

[Alex Hormozi @AlexHormozi]

The whole be happy mantra never resonated with me. Maybe because I just don’t think I’m built that way. Or it felt unattainable.

I always just figured “if you wanna be happy, just go be a monk” FYI - they have it down. 3-4 standard deviations above normal measures of subjective well being (happiness measure).

So then, if we don’t become monks, what are we left with?

Not sure but @Schwarzenegger father told him this: “be useful”

And when I heard it, that felt ‘right’ for me.

Happy always felt soft and fluffy. But utility is hard and clear. Like a blacksmiths hammer. Useful. It can destroy. It can build. It can go through fire and come out harder. It beats out impurities. It can last a lifetime. It has a use. And it’s useful to the blacksmith and every person who uses what it worked on.

It has this nice balance of self and others focus.

To be useful you need to get better.
But to be useful, you need other people to be useful for.

Elegant and simple. It beats the hell outta happy for me. And helps me stick tougher things out because it reminds me “you didn’t say you wanted to be happy. You said you wanted to be useful. And this is what it takes.” Keeps me on course.

Anyways, late night thoughts after another marathon editing $100M vol 3 with @DrKashey.

Appreciate you all. And I hope that when I die people say “he was useful”

Enough for me.

Keep crushing. I’ll see you all in the blacksmith’s forge tomorrow. Hammer away. 🔨 🔨

[Dayna @DAY_L_]

Find clarity in the simplicity of doing your job today.

This fit perfectly for my day today!

[Dayna @DAY_L_]

Today's read from;
The Daily Stoic : 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the art of living

[Dayna @DAY_L_]

You can see how mastery over a few things makes it possible to live an abundant and devout life-for, if you keep watch over these things, the gods won't ask for more."
-Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 2.5

[Eckhart Tolle Quotes @EckTOLLEQuotes]

If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within, secondary reality without.

[Orange Book 🍊📖 @orangebook]

It's not about marriage, it's about a lifelong partner that makes you feel understood, with whom you can share all your meaningful experiences.

It's not about money, it's about less stress, less anger, less fear, because you have more options.

Don't forget the bigger picture.

[Daily Stoic @dailystoic]

Marcus Aurelius and Seneca both wrote that the best revenge is to exact no revenge at all.

If someone treats you rudely and you respond with rudeness, you have not done anything but prove to them that they were justified in their actions.

[Prof. Feynman @ProfFeynman]

Education is the acquisition of knowledge, while intelligence is the ability to use that knowledge to think and reason. One can be highly educated but not necessarily intelligent, and vice versa.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Adult children of alcoholics live with the scars from the unpredictable and chaotic environments they grew up in. The opening of a door, the sounds of footsteps, or the smell of alcohol in the air can trigger a traumatic response in the body decades later.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Healing from codependency is tough because you were taught since you were a child that you’re responsible for how other people feel. So when someone’s in a bad mood or feeling off, your subconscious response is that you caused it. Or have to fix it.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

I spent most of my adult life dissociated. I had almost no memories, and felt like my life was a haze or not even real.

Here's why:

[Curiosity @CuriosityonX]

Butterfly Nebula captured by the Hubble space telescope.

[Massimo @Rainmaker1973]

The U.S. National Weather Service defines an ice storm as a storm which results in the accumulation of at least 0.25-inch (6.4 mm) of ice on exposed surfaces. These are flowers photographed in Oklahoma City in October 2020

[📷 u/BongerB: https://t.co/pHHZf8bImE]

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Confidence comes from the ability to self regulate. Self regulation is the ability to process life around you and respond to it rather than reacting to your emotions. Reacting to your own emotions is exhausting and feels like a never ending cycle of stress.

[Slava Bobrov @slava__bobrov]

How brain cells communicate:

#neuroscience

[reggie mills @MillsReggie]

Never force, don’t beg and don’t chase.

[Slava Bobrov @slava__bobrov]

Two brain cells having a chat:

#neuroscience