Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox

I drink coffee and I know things. Online harassment & #revengeporn survivor. Allegedly one of the Tethered. This is becoming a manifesto.

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

Quoting someone else:

"The moral impulse to utterly destroy that which is not sufficiently virtuous, anything which is problematic, anything that makes you feel weird is a fascist impulse."

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@DrDoyleSays We all fall off the wagon sometimes. So many shitty people and fake psychology "experts". Keep being awesome.

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@ellieokwilson Tagging Shahida Arabi @selfcarehaven, who has written books about this phenomenon. (Apologies to her if she's already read and/or posted about this.)

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@JasonKPargin Damn, that's the most thorough yet eminently readable article I've encountered in years. Psychology (not the fluffy bullshit) and trauma are two of my fixations. Thanks immensely for this. I'll read it in full later on. Your account is one of very few keeping me on this platform.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

It's common for trauma survivors who were gaslit, verbally abused, or conversationally bullied growing up to prefer to communicate via texts or emails instead of talking-- because we can look back over what we & the other person ACTUALLY said, as many times as we need to.

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@baeblebrox @IanColdwater What. Ahaha. Did you design this?!

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@IanColdwater Hi, apologies for interrupting! Eva mentioned you in a tweet some time ago. Is there a way to contact you by email? I see that you're on LinkedIn, but I'm not a member.

It's about... stuff.

[The Wily Survivor @WilySurvivor]

Part of the narcissistic abuser's grooming process is to subtly and repeatedly test your boundaries.

Eyes open 👀

[ً @artfuIchaos]

manipulation is when they always play the victim by blaming you for reacting to their toxic behavior, but never discuss their disrespect that triggered you.

[Workplace Mental Health Resources @Stopworkplacebu]

While we will never completely stop workplace bullying, it is important to shed light on this type of toxic behaviors as to create more awareness about the 'real harm' it really does. Articles are shared here to give it more credibility. Hence, believe the victims.

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@Stopworkplacebu Thank you for this resource!

I greatly appreciate how much time and effort you devote toward helping survivors on a daily basis. A deep wellspring of empathy and sanity. Your account is one of the reasons I'm still here. (On Twitter. But I do struggle with suicidal ideation.)

[Workplace Mental Health Resources @Stopworkplacebu]

Psychological harassment is a form of vexatious behaviour that involves repeated hostile and unwanted words, behaviour, or actions that are painful, hurtful, annoying, humiliating or insulting.
https://t.co/JqwqupSn4y.

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@UBCDemocracy @cjtenove @gruzd @vickiomeara I'm just a survivor of online harassment who reads a lot of textbooks on the phenomenon. I was an activist before all this happened to me. Is there any way I can contribute to your work? I'm based in Ontario.

[Abyssinian, Caught in a Time Paradox @HatingHatred]

@LiliEmbers I'm so sorry this happened to you.

I was targeted before GG, but it involved many of the same losers: 4chan, 8chan, KF. "You're a bad person and you should feel bad." Unrelenting online abuse is devastating. My DMs are open if you want to chat. 💚

[imdatfeminist 🐆 @imdatfeminist]

Funny thing about being called “crazy” is that it’s usually when you’re having a rational/proportionate response to their ridiculous, hurtful, and unbelievable disrespect/mistreatment LOL. It’s almost like you’re not actually crazy and they’re just a gaslighting piece of shit.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Blog: "Resist the urge to stigmatize your anger.

Resist the urge to deny it or disown it.

Own your anger.

It’s really important— and, in trauma recovery, really useful." https://t.co/1gr8O4pLMI

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Everything does not happen for a reason. Everything happens because people make decisions every day. Many of those decisions include hurting other people. Suggesting things happens for a reason minimizes the pain of someone’s life being altered & the work they have to do to heal.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Dissociative Identity Disorder is real.

Dissociative amnesia ("repressed"/recovered memory) happens.

And trauma responses aren't "choices."

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

A lot of hurt people who hurt people surround themselves with enablers who repeat that phrase, while they repeat the same harmful behavior with no intentions of remorse, accountability, or change.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Maybe my least favorite genre of too-cool tweet is “you know gaslighting/manipulation/coercive control isn’t REAL, maybe you’re just weak minded.”

Yes, yes. You’re far too smart to be taken in or whatever. Now shut up.

[MyTwoCents @TrustTheSilence]

@DrDoyleSays Some see disapproval not as present judgment, but as a flashback to past manipulations. When the truth was warped, weaponized against them, & assigned as their dominant character flaw. Disapproval doesn’t trigger their defenses. It teleports them to a time they were defenseless.