Not sure whether it’s an African thing only, or it's an inherent human trait but most jealous people don’t necessarily want what you have, they just don’t want you to have it.
You have to be extremely self aware for this as a man. You have to have the ability to sit with very uncomfortable truths about your parents, esp your father as a man, a husband & a parent. This is a very uncomfortable & disturbing process, given most men are avoidants!
Men,
The tears of a man are not seen because they silently drip into his stomach,
He bleeds silently in places his family cannot see,
This is so that the people he loves never have to cry or bleed.
So, work,
Keep going.
#MasculinitySaturday
2. Go home. Don't stick at work beyond office hours.
You are not the pillar of your department.
If you drop dead today, you will be replaced immediately and operations will continue.
3. Don't chase promotion. Master your skills and be excellent at what you do.
If they want to promote you, that's fine. If they don't, it is their loss.
1. Be loyal to yourself and believe in your work.
Don't be loyal to your boss.
Hanging around your boss will alienate you from your colleagues and your boss will finally dump you.
This is the thought process for the quintessential philosopher:
If he marries, he saddles himself with responsibility for another's(s') life, that he will ultimately die and leave behind, with a posterity/legacy that serves him little in death, which is guaranteed.
So why?
@AntohSZN Through seeing through life, by acknowledging that suicide is just ending something that will end eventually, if you love books get the book Anna Karenina and follow Levin's story
@XivTroy@Fantasy_Genius2@_Moziller What i loved more was the book Locked in the arms of a crazy life, its written by Sounes on the legend himself, recounts a day he was arrested, stories with his publisher etc, have you read it?
The news of the passing of Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o are sad and heartbreaking. He was Africa’s greatest literary pen and a worrier for indigenous African languages. He fought so hard to defend our languages as an integral part of our humanity. Perhaps it is because of this that the west rejected his greatness.
He should have received the Nobel Prize for Literature for The Devil on The Cross already in 1980s. But Europe still conspired to put his ideas on the cross, denying their genius and power.
He wrote on The Devil on the Cross;
“Our lives are a battlefield on which is fought a continuous war between the forces that are pledged to confirm our humanity and those determined to dismantle it; those who strive to build a protective wall around it, and those who wish to pull it down; those who seek to mold it, and those committed to breaking it up; those whose aim is to open our eyes, to make us see the light and look to tomorrow […] and those who wish to lull us into closing our eyes.”
In Decolonising the Mind, he reminded all of us that “Imperialism and its comprador alliances in Africa can never develop the continent.” Asking us to disabuse ourselves of all attempts to mimic the west. Those who want to copy Europe, may as well allow Europeans to run our continent. In his determination, our path to development starts in dispensing with intellectual dependency on imperialist forces and expectation that Europe has our best interest!
His work and life represented a struggle against the post-colonial condition: the oppression Africans suffer from the post-colonial potentates. This post-colonial Africa painted with actions of African elites who drive self interest, with greed, violence and let it be said, laziness, is what Ngugi leaves behind. An Africa that confront all us and faces yet another possibility of dismemberment by the imperialist forces who have become more advanced than the ones who scrambled Africa at the late 1884 Berlin Conference.
Rest in Power Ngũgĩ wa Thiong’o