She had him FIRED over this. He was working a second job as the overnight gym attendant to help support his two little girls. I talked to him, called the gym, got him his job back, and helped pay off some of his bills for him. More important she was BANNED from the gym!
The most exhausting, unspoken burden on men in modern dating is that they are expected to be the sole architects of the relationship. A man is expected to initiate the first text, plan the dates, fund the experiences, orchestrate the proposal, and constantly drive the romance forward. We have completely normalized a culture where a woman’s mere presence is considered her "effort." The absolute second a man gets tired of being the only engine keeping the relationship moving and asks for equal romantic effort, he is instantly accused of being "inconsistent" or "low effort." We demand 50/50 modern equality, but aggressively enforce traditional male burdens the exact moment romance is involved.
One of my buddies a decade ago dated a rave girl. She would go off to festivals all the time with her girls(and one guy friend). My buddy obviously couldn't go because he had a job but he was never concerned.
I asked him if she could be doing something nefarious. He said "she would never do that." I simply asked because she would talk about how she looked forward to all the drugs and alcohol. Drugs and drinks never lead to good decisions.
Well long story short. She cheated on him with dozens of guys over a year and broke up with him for the guy friend who she went to the raves with.