Contrairement aux hommes, les femmes n’ont pas de passions, elles ont des passe-temps.
Voyage, restaurants, yoga, "bien-être"… Des activités centrées sur le soi, sur elles et sur leur relation à l’autre, pas sur le monde extérieur.
Pour comprendre cette réalité, on peut s’appuyer sur la méta-analyse de Su, Rounds et Armstrong, publiée dans Psychological Bulletin (2009).
Elle a compilé les centres d’intérêt de plus de 500 000 personnes, pour trancher une seule question : vers quoi, spontanément, hommes et femmes tournent-ils leur attention ?
Le résultat ?
L’un des plus grands écarts entre les sexes jamais mesurés : les hommes gravitent, en moyenne, vers les choses et les systèmes ; les femmes, vers les êtres.
Le plus intéressant, c’est que cet axe explique très bien le hobby.
Car finalement, c'est ça "la passion" : une activité dont l’objet principal est matériel ou systémique et non humain.
Un domaine technique, un instrument, un marché financier, l'informatique, les sciences, l’ingénierie... C’est la "passion-objet" une partie du monde extérieur qu’on souhaite comprendre, transformer, maîtriser.
Ce qu'aiment en majorité les femmes, c'est à dire le voyage, les sorties avec les amis, les balades, le restaurant ne maîtrisent rien du monde. Ce sont des passe-temps, des expériences qu’on partage.
Elles se ressemblent juste parce qu’elles ne se pratiquent pas seules, toujours avec quelqu’un, contrairement aux activités masculines qui s’envisagent parfaitement seules.
Ainsi, lorsqu’une femme s’intéresse à la passion de son homme, il arrive souvent que ce qui l’attire, ce ne soit pas tant l’objet lui-même que la proximité avec l’homme qui l’habite.
La passion partagée devient alors un proxy relationnel.
Ah yes, you're "born this way." Oh wait...
Almost all women's aggregate behavior can be classified as "social contagion." It's almost entirely herd behavior.
Additionally, female homosexuality isn't real and male homosexuality is just a fetish for transgression.
The last few decades have been exhausting, having had to live through the endless lies.
SICARIO showed that rightwingers can make high-concept subversive films that convey complex ideas simply.
Emily Blunt's liberal status quo character is made to appear the protagonist in the beginning, but is gradually unveiled as the film's ultimate villain.
It is her legalism and unwillingness to concede that only men of will and violence can suppress a totally corrupted system that is keeping the cartels on life support.
I also defended a 24 y/o accused of rape where the “victim” told the cops and DA my client “wouldn’t stop when she said stop.” When I got the SANE report, she had told the nurse she “took my client and shoved him inside her and wouldn’t let him pull out.” When she realized the nurse was taking notes she said, “OMG stop writing this down what the fuck.” The nurse to her credit also wrote that down.
My fiance is able bodied, with a masters, and hasn't found work after thousands of applications, because your party filled every industry with Indians and talentless HR Karens.
Shut the fuck up, Sarah.
“My late brother Francis, staying with a French family to improve his knowledge of the language, was helping himself to cheese at dinner. The plateau included a wedge of brie, and the inexperienced Englishman, instead of slicing along the side, cut off the point, or nose. His hostess, exercising that special French skill in making foreign visitors feel at ease, remarked: ‘Je n’ai jamais vu personne qui découpât comme ça le nez d’un brie.’ Francis said that he distinctly heard, in the air above the family dining-table, the sharp hiss of the circumflex over the third person singular of the past subjunctive.”
— John Sturrock, London Review of Books 1996
When I did concrete work as a young man there was a guy on the crew who only worked 6 months a year. From February to July he lived off his tax return for his 8 kids.
Dry Wallers are almost all like that.
It always makes me laugh when younger people in his replies on IG make comments about his skin or physique while this dude is a 61yr old former Delta operator barbarian who could eliminate any of them with his bare hands to this day. We all get old but most 61yr olds are not this
Machiavelli writes in The Prince that you should never rely on losing deliberately so that way people will want to restore you. This can only work if literally all other options fail and you lost anyways, and if not they will never restore you.
In other words, letting Democrats win because you hope Republicans will then give you power or because it will cause the system to collapse and then you rise to the top is a really, really dumb idea.
You must exhaust literally all expedient options to continue to maintain or to take control rather than simply rely on losses to somehow result in a win. Important stuff.
"Professor Tolkien asked me the very simple question, 'What class of men would you expect to be most preoccupied with, and most hostile to, the idea of escape?’ and gave the obvious answer: 'Jailers.'" -C.S. Lewis
ngl i finally realized that dads tend to be less anxious as parents, and that actually makes it way easier to build confidence and discipline instead of fear
There are always compromises in a relationship.
For me, you just need to hit the big rocks. You are not going to agree on everything.
You will argue. Someone will leave their socks on the floor. Someone will have a bad day.
And frankly, you won't be happy 24/7.
What matters:
1. Will this person be there for me?
2. Can they take care of me/raise a family? (goes both ways)
3. Do they have good morals/honesty?
4. Good sense of finances?
5. Willing to learn/grow?
In essence: dependable, trustworthy, honest, competent, compassionate
This will be provocative but here's the truth:
1. Women need attention and desire a great man
2. Very few women have the capacity to maintain the attention of a great man
Their marriage ended because she was not as great a woman as he was a man. He did his part (he was great) but she couldn't do hers.
The inverse of this happens often, in which men sell their future greatness to a woman and when they fail, the woman leaves. Sometimes, you simply cannot meet the demands of your marriage.
To be clear, this doesn't justify divorce or affairs, though both happen. The reality is that she wanted a man who'd spent decades pursuing and achieving greatness, to give it up for her. That's an impossible demand, even if she were right.
Maybe he should have quit football when he said he would, but she should have never asked him to do that. If he did he'd resent her. If he didn't, he'd be reneging on his promise. He chose the latter.
You have to know who your spouse is.
Baris: Trump voters under 50 will never forgive Israel for what it did. They viewed DJT and Vance as the last chance to save the country, and from these voters' perspective, Israel ruined this chance. These voters will never forgive Israel.