Pregnancy can kill her.
C-sections can scar her forever.
Postpartum can destroy her mentally. But sure, keep calling it “just nine months.” Your lack of empathy is terrifying.
Dear @CapitecBankSA
Kindly speak to your clients - things have gotten out of hand! We can’t take this anymore! This is abuse!
Thank you Dineo Moloisane for putting it out there, finally!
I was asked, 'who is your best friend?' I don't know. I don't use language like that anymore. It doesn't fit. I have friends that hold the keys to different doors of my personality. And some open my heart. Some my laughter. Some my sin. Some my inner child
Y'all will soon realize that someone can say they want you and mean it with their feelings and still fail you with their habits, their behaviors, words and actions. Love without structure is where emotional safety dies.
I believe that people's actions can make it clear that they have no respect or regard for you, regardless of what they say. Their actions clearly indicate that they don't value you. When you notice this, take it for what it is.
i find it extremely fcked up when you have to ask men “what if she was your sister, daughter or mother” in order to make them see women as valuable human beings
A cheating man is bad enough.
But you know what’s even worse?
A man who pretends to be good, but in reality is a pathological liar, a lustful manipulator, and an expert at playing the victim.
The other day I watched a TikTok that said women leave good men too, not because they aren’t good, but because women get tired. And that hit. Because sometimes it’s not cheating. It’s not disrespect. It’s not some big dramatic thing. Sometimes it’s the mental load. The constant reminding. The feeling like you’re the project manager of the relationship.
It’s like having a “good” worker. They show up. They’re capable. They don’t argue. They’ll do whatever you ask. But every single day you still have to say, “Go to your station. Do your job. Handle that.” And they will. But the fact that you have to keep saying it? That’s the part that drains you.
Relationships can feel like that too. Being a good man isn’t just about doing things once they’re pointed out. It’s about awareness. Initiative. Seeing what needs to be done and doing it without being managed. Nobody wants to feel like their partner’s supervisor.
I don’t want to keep telling you what to do. I want to feel like you already know how to show up.