The problem with people who use "do your research" as a gotcha is they found publications that agreed with their opinions & stopped there. That's not research, that's seeking affirmation. Research is also finding what does not affirm you & acknowledging that intellectual labour.
If you’re easily incited to hate on fellow Africans, you also can be easily turned against your own neighbors, communities and tribes.
Politics of division doesn’t start and end with tribalism.
My favorite form of intimacy has always been asking questions, not to pry, but to understand the architecture of someone's inner world. The way they think. The way they feel. The way their past still echoes in their present. There's a depth in people that never shows unless someone asks the kind of questions that require honesty instead of performance.
Your mother is problematic. Your father is problematic. Your son is problematic. Your aunt is problematic. The cashier at the local Tesco is problematic. You've probably bought a cookie from a bakery made by hands that have done unspeakable things. Every chocolate bar you've ever eaten has probably killed a 7 year old child slave in Cameroon. The gas that drives your car is fueled by engines of death. Every person who has ever smiled at you in the streets has committed some act that if you knew about it, would make you profoundly dislike them.
We have all been bad, small, petty, unlikeable, cruel, downright mean. Authors are not special "problematic" beings, they're just more public. Part of being an adult is recognizing that without mercy for our fellow human beings, and ourselves, we'd all be condemned to death. Reading fiction should help us understand that we're all irreparably tainted with evil, every system is corrupted, every line is broken.
And like, that's okay. That's what it means to be alive.
Fellow enjoyers of small joys, go to the link below and feed your interactive curiosity.
Start with: 'Life Stats' and 'Wonders of Street Views'. 😀
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"Just because you’re able to quote Camus, Nietzsche, or Kierkegaard doesn’t mean you feel the dread of life more than a rural farmer does. And just because you sit in a library and battle with abstractions doesn’t mean you understand the moral weight of duty better than a young, vibrant, uneducated man who was forced into the army at age eighteen"
the fact that every person you pass is living a story just as dense, contradictory, unfinished, & emotionally loaded as your own is… absurdly beautiful.