I don’t know who needs to hear this but there is a 30 minute video called “Studio Ghibli Nature Loop” on HBO Max that just plays different pretty scenes from Ghibli movies with ambient sound
if they don’t understand how their unhealed projections are hurting you, then they haven’t developed the self-awareness to start working on themselves yet. your empathy is admirable, but don’t let yourself be an outlet for someone’s pain. their healing isn’t your responsibility.