It's honestly so simple.
Just heal your family trauma, regulate your nervous system, break your addictions, process centuries of cultural trauma, repair your attachment style, reparent your inner child, and develop a spiritual practice that dissolves the boundaries between self and other...
Oh, and don't forget to pay rent, stay hydrated, answer emails, and remember to seem fine when someone asks how you're doing.
You avoid many disappointments when you realize people can't give you what they can't give themselves. Stop seeking love from those who can't love themselves. Stop seeking validation from those who seek validation from others. Stop seeking honesty from those who lie to themselves
"When people allow you to know about their pain and talk about it, take your shoes off. It's a holy place.
Be humble, be kind when someone shows you vulnerability."
- Amani Albair
"Choices" we made when we were vulnerable, unsupported, & under-resourced, don't represent who we are. They represent what we understood as our options at the time.
Grace over guilt. We did what we could w/ what we had then-- & we can only do what we can w/ what we have, now.