Grieving & FIERCE

Fighting for truth for the most vulnerable #PanamaDeafMissions
Such beauty on the other side of the lies. Former Interpreter. #GlobalLiteracy

[Grieving & FIERCE @MinistriesIc]

Amos 5:24.. Msg.
Do you know what I want?
I want justice—oceans of it.
I want fairness—rivers of it.
That’s what I want. That’s all I want.

[Christa Brown @ChristaBrown777]

2/ ...this column by David Ruybalid: "I No Longer Trust Christian Schools: Here's Why."

https://t.co/JjwwDjtNP2

"The issue is systemic. When institutions are built in ways that reward image protection over truth, harm becomes easier to hide & harder to address."
#ThisistheSBC

[Christa Brown @ChristaBrown777]

"The only solution for the Southern Baptist Convention to solve its sexual abuse problem is to dismantle the denomination entirely, according to @BozT," an attorney for abuse survivors.

Seems like a good time to re-run this. ⬇️ #ThisistheSBC #SBC26
https://t.co/uPCvJm86az

[elle @aevisary]

fake hand, endless painful climb

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists don’t choose their targets randomly. They’re looking for supply value — people who will give them admiration, attention, control, emotional reactions. And they’ve developed a predator’s instinct for finding the people most likely to provide it.
Empaths.
Caretakers.
High achievers.
Forgivers.
People in transition.
Those with strong moral codes.
They’re looking for a combination of high supply value and low perceived resistance. 🧵

[Shadows of Control @shadows_control]

When you confront an abuser about the harm they have caused you, they will often flip the narrative so they appear to be the one who has been mistreated.

They shift the focus away from what they did and onto your tone, your reaction, your ‘misunderstanding’ of them, your supposed failure to see their good intentions, or the fact that you are confronting them at all.

The conversation is then no longer about their behaviour, but about how ‘unfairly’ they are now being treated.

If you are a compassionate person who cares about fairness, this can be very destabilising.

Instead of questioning the harm done to you, you may find yourself trying to repair the emotional injury they now claim to be experiencing.

This is how abusers slowly rewrite the story until you begin to believe that you are responsible for the harm they are causing.

#EmotionalAbuse #Manipulation #DomesticAbuse

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists don’t just refuse to apologize, they actually corrupt the meaning of what an apology is.
For a healthy person, an apology comes from internal discomfort: “I don’t like who I was in that moment, and I don’t like that I caused harm.” It’s self-correcting. The other person’s feelings matter, but they’re not the motive—they’re the context.
A narcissist can’t access that internal signal. There’s no remorse circuitry firing. So instead of an apology being an expression of conscience, they interpret it purely as a power transaction. Who’s up, who’s down, who “lost.” In that framework, apologizing equals surrender. It’s not moral repair—it’s forfeiting status.
That’s why narcissistic “apologies” feel hollow or transactional. “I’m sorry you feel that way.” “I already said sorry, what more do you want?” They’re not trying to realign themselves ethically; they’re trying to end a conflict without paying a cost.

[Dr. Michael F. Bird @mbird12]

I’m not disputing the concept of biblical infallibility, even if I might do it differently; I’m primarily warning about the American focus on inerrancy and its function to purify theological tribes, not from heresy, but from dissent against certain cultures of conservatism. https://t.co/byp9ndSZf5

[Josh @JD_Quotes2017]

Narcissists are extremely sneaky. They will use your reactions to what they have done to you, in an effort to make you look crazy. They do this by telling others only half of the actual occurrence, and conveniently leave out their actions.

[Examining Doug Wilson & Moscow @ExaminingMoscow]

It’s almost like, oh I don’t know, Doug should have known that officiating the arranged marriage of a fixated pedophile to a young woman in his church, then encouraging them to have children, would turn out badly.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Narcissists thrive on creating a stressful environment because it keeps others off balance and easier to control. The constant unpredictability, criticism, or manufactured conflict puts people into a state of hypervigilance—always waiting for the next blow-up, silent treatment, or guilt trip.
That stress isn’t an accident; it’s part of their strategy. By keeping you emotionally drained and distracted, they make it harder for you to think clearly, set boundaries, or recognize the manipulation for what it is.

[Amy Smith @watchkeep]

In a sermon today, lead pastor Ryan Gilbert at First Baptist Church, Universal City, Texas addressed the arrest of FBC Academy band director Stephen Strawn.

At about the 1:45 mark he goes into a diatribe warning about gossip. 🙄😡
#ThisistheSBC

[Dwight McKissic @pastordmack]

Again….the White Evangelical American Church Owes America An Apology. Blatant racism cannot be tolerated by the church. God help America.

[Christa Brown @ChristaBrown777]

This is someone whom many Southern Baptists viewed as an expert on sexual ethics. He's now been arrested on charges of child rape.

Tarwater was a professor at Cedarville University in Ohio, a school with ties to the Southern Baptist Convention. #ThisistheSBC

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

Oversharing as a trauma response is very common among survivors of narcissistic abuse — especially for those who were the scapegoat or subject to constant emotional invalidation, gaslighting, or character assassination. This is a trauma-born strategy for self-protection, especially when you've been falsely labeled as “the bad one,” or “the manipulator.” Often stemming from an internalized belief that you're inherently suspect or guilty. Transparency became a form of armor: -"If I’m fully open, no one can accuse me of secret motives." -“If I tell them everything, I won’t be misunderstood." -“If I explain myself thoroughly, I won’t be scapegoated again." The intent is noble — you wanted honesty, clarity, fairness. But the tragic part? Narcissistic people weaponize transparency. They: -Use your openness to control or take advantage of you -Pretend you’re “confessing” to wrongdoing -Store your truths and vulnerabilities to later shame or punish you So your transparency, instead of protecting you, often reinforces the abuse. 🧵

[Marissa Franks Burt @MBurtwrites]

Jim Bob Duggar indicated sexual abuse was a community norm. Now 2 sons have confessed to abusing young girls.

Perhaps unsurprising in a purity-culture saturated community that dehumanizes children, blames victims & glorifies suffering. 1/2

[CrossPolitic @CrossPolitic]

How The SBC Got Played

An unlicensed investigation, a lawyer editing a report about her own client, and $13 million in tithes later, the largest conservative Protestant denomination in America learned what happens when men fear the mob more than they fear God.

Special thanks to @megbasham and @RodDMartin for their contribution to this project.🫡

[Dwight McKissic @pastordmack]

Nothing but propaganda, and a slap in the face to the hundreds of girls and women who were abused at the hands of SBC pastors. The message sent by the EC to those who were abused was, “you matter, and we care.” That message made everyone cent spent worth it.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

“Manipulative Concern” is a covertly malicious abuse tactic where an abuser pretends to worry about their victim’s behavior to manipulate others into believing the person is unstable. This false concern is actually meant to increase the victim's stress as the abuser taunts the victim by gaslighting the world and creating a false narrative.
This abuse tactic is meant to interrupt the victim’s healing process keeping them forever traumatized by creating the very problems the abuser suggests as a self fulfilling prophecy while simultaneously painting themselves as innocent and “helpful”.
It is a covertly sadistic form of control over their victim and can be performed in front of the world which makes it that much more devastating to the victim of this horrible abuse tactic.