Mags Gee

Science Leader. Forthright Feminist. Teaching Leaders 2018-20. Balancing Urban Teaching with Motherhood, One Tantrum at a Time. Aspiring Trust Curriculum Lead.

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

Last term I tweeted about how moving to my new school had saved me.
At the end of last term, my 27-week old baby was stillborn.
The kindness, compassion and support I have received from people who've only known me since September has blown me away.

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@RogersHistory Earlier this year one of my colleagues - in my dept & taught next door to me - died unexpectedly. We had to tell our tutor groups the next morning. I couldn't stop myself crying as I talked to them.

[Mr P MBE @ICT_MrP]

In today’s education news, the head of Ofsted has said it’s time to discuss extending term times and I can’t help but think this won’t help the retention crisis in education

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@londonteacher_ I think the closest I get to full facism is my belief that if you're not behaving in the theatre (chatting, filming etc) then you are removed. No discussion. IT'S THE CONTRACT YOU SIGN WHEN YOU BUY A TICKET?!

[Sands - baby loss charity 💜🧡 @SandsUK]

Run…5k on Saturday 12 October.
Run…5, 10 or 15k during #BLAW.
Run somewhere special to you.
No matter how you take on Ribbon Run.🩷💙
Run to help save babies’ lives. #SandsRibbonRun

[KP @TeacherBusy]

For anyone who needs to hear it:

- yes, it is always like this at the beginning of term
- yes, that tension headache will go away eventually
- yes, you will get back into a routine
- yes, you do know what you’re doing

☺️

[Jonathan Pie @JonathanPieNews]

Election Special 4: The Conservatives.

[Edwin Hayward @edwinhayward]

"Don't forget"

14 years of Tory pain summed up in 41 seconds of pure fire.

This is like watching Bruce Banner become the Hulk for the first time.

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

Couldn't agree more. The time and space I've been given shows me how valued I am, not just as a teacher but as a human ❤

[Emily Weston @primaryteachew]

The best kind of leader is one who makes you feel no guilt for not being in when you’re ill and encourages you to look after yourself 🖤

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@Gatwick_Airport Thank you! I did that once we got home, but thought I'd try just in case anyone saw it and picked it up 🙂

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@Gatwick_Airport don't suppose anyone picked up a small blue Jellycat bunny toy at South Terminal baggage reclaim around 10pm last night?! My 7yo left it on/near a bench, we only realised after customs and she was distraught 😭

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

I cannot imagine the trauma involved in this. Knowing my baby had died but her body was still in me was horrific.
My heart goes out to anyone dealing with laws that endanger actual lives under the guise of morality.

[Ryan Hamilton @TheRyanHamilton]

My heart is broken💔: As friends & family know, my wife was pregnant with our 2nd child, & about to begin her 2nd trimester. A few days ago she had severe pains, & bleeding, and had to go to the emergency room. There, it was discovered that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Devastated doesn't come close to what that feels like.
Unfortunately for people like us, because of the current laws in the state of Texas, that was only the beginning of this nightmare. Jess (my wife) had an "incomplete miscarriage", and what needed to happen, what was best for HER, and her health, was to terminate the pregnancy, and get the baby out.
The doctor gave her a medication that would move this process along, and sent her home. Where, apparently we would be handling it ourselves. We were told it might take a couple of attempts before it worked.
I'll let you decide how you feel about that.
After a long, painful night of the equivalent of early labor, the baby was still with her. So, we went back to the Emergency Center to get the 2nd dose. A new doctor was on call. He was an older man. You could hear him in the hallway as he said, "I'm not giving her a pill so she can go home and have an ab*rtion!". Being well aware that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Then, he came into the room to say, and I quote: "Considering the current stance. I'm not going to prescribe you this pill". Then, just sent us on our way.
The "CURRENT STANCE"?! Did he really just say that?!
No one should ever have to hear their wife say: "Get this dead baby out of me!".
Can you even imagine how that must feel?
The pain, and the bleeding continued. So, we decided to go to another hospital, about an hour away. There was a female doctor on call there, and we thought we might have better luck.
I should probably mention, the procedure to get the baby out is called a D & C. It's scary, & traumatizing, but sometimes necessary in situations like ours. Especially in emergency circumstances.
So we get to the next hospital. They take Jess in, ask her a bunch of questions, do a new scan... confirm that the baby is still there, with no heartbeat, and then disappear... for hours. Only to come back in and keep asking the same questions over and over. It's becoming clear that they're primary concern is NOT my wife's health. Instead, they seem to be worried about the legalities involved.
So, they decide it is not "enough of an emergency" to perform the D & C.
They do, however, prescribe another, stronger, final dose of the medication for us to try again... at home.
So, we go home to try again. Another long day/night of early labor pains. Only to discover my wife UNCONSCIOUS in the bathroom. Having to pick my wife's cold, limp body off of that bathroom floor, not sure if I was about to lose her, is something I will NEVER forget.
She had to be rushed to the hospital.
By this point she had lost so much blood, and bodily fluid, her body gave out.
They were able to stabilize her, give her the fluids she needed, and we came back home yesterday afternoon. We were also able to confirm that our baby was no longer with her.
Now, not only do we have to live with the loss of our baby... we have to live with the nightmare of what we just experienced because of political and religious beliefs. MY WIFE'S HEALTH SHOULD HAVE COME FIRST. PERIOD!
God knows what mental and emotional damage this has done.
If you consider yourself a staunch "pro-lifer" ... 1) You've never been through what we just went through, and 2) You should take a long, hard look in the mirror and reevaluate your reasons for supporting such a cold, barbaric, ignorant point of view.
It's not that black & white, and it's never going to be.
If you think your "Pray To End Ab*rtion" sign in your yard is "Christian", I suggest you revisit the teachings of Jesus and try again. If you support these laws that make ab*rtion illegal, and result in people being put through what we just were, you should be ashamed of yourself. I've never been so angry, or heartbroken... and the devastation I'm feeling must pale in comparison to what my poor wife is feeling.

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

My dept in my school are everything I always hoped for. It's a culture set from the top down, and it is genuinely the kindest and warmest, most supportive group of people. I didn't know it could be this good

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[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@AashaCowey Sending you love xx

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@mrs_madeleine_r @MiscarriageA @mtptproject I'm so sorry. I find myself in a similar situation and it definitely hits different this year. Take care of yourself x

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@MakingSendse Sorry I misread - very very glad they made it x

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

Last term I tweeted about how moving to my new school had saved me.
At the end of last term, my 27-week old baby was stillborn.
The kindness, compassion and support I have received from people who've only known me since September has blown me away.

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

@MakingSendse I don't believe it was anything to do with stress. 20wk scan end of Oct was perfect, and I'd never felt so un-stressed in my teaching career. Just a horrible unavoidable undetectable complication of trying to exist 😪 I'm sorry for your losses x

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

I don't know how I would have coped with this tragedy before now. I knew I was free to take the time I needed, and when I felt ready to go back they'd be happy to have me back, and help me go at my own pace... well it made it copeable with

[Mags Gee @MsGeeTeaches]

I'm starting back next Monday and I'm so excited to do so. I went in just before HT to see my team, and the number of my students who were happy to see me and asked after me... the staff who greeted me with big smiles... it makes such a difference 😊