I want to say this,
Before you marry a woman,
• Understand her family's taboos, traditions, values, morals and beliefs. This is important.
• Take her to your home, and leave her there for a while to bond with your traditions, values, morals and beliefs.
• Go to her home and introduce yourself. This is not you going. It is your uncle, siblings and aunts. You remain behind.
• Invite her brothers, uncles, aunts and otheŕ relatives to your home. This is when they see you for the first time. This is when you interact with them for the first time.
• After this, plan and go to her home. This is the first time you go there. Go with your friends, siblings and parents. This is where bride price talks are introduced. This is when you meet her father and mother for the first time.
Why do all these?
To protect yourself and your children's future.
But most of you are ignorant. You live in the city like vagabonds.
You meet a woman in the city and hide her in your city's house.
Impregnate her in the city.
Have children in the city.
Then, when things fail and her family take her away, you throw tantrums, loiter around court corridors and jeopardise your children's future.
Some of you shamelessly meet your father-in-law for the first time in a funeral.
Or some of you, casually meet your father-in-law in a bar.
Your children don't even know their village.
When will you be straightforward and subservient to our cultural norms as an African?
Stop being a bladifakin man.
The youth will make a significance difference in next year's election. @IEBCKenya should be ready to ensure credible elections are conducted. What happened in Ol Kalou makes the us not to have "trust" in the Commission. The ladies are right!
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This age hits hard.
Career pressure, daily responsibilities, big dreams, marriage talks, and aging parents, all at once. Just trying to survive and find meaning.
You can’t control:
- politics
- the economy
- other people
You can control:
- the work you do
- the money you invest
- the habits you build
Focus on what you can control.