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[Àgbà John Doe (back up) @jon_d_doee]

Back to the topic of infertility.

A married man is in a state of confusion/joy.

He has been married for 8 years with no child.

He's 44 and his wife is 37.

His wife's younger sister (29) is pregnant for him. They have been having a secret affair for over 7 months.

She wants to terminate the pregnancy but he doesn't want that. He is insisting that he will marry her since all he did was traditional wedding, it will not be a crime of bigamy if he marries her.

The parents of the wife are late.

The young woman is almost 2 months pregnant and the man wants to have his own biological child.

He wants to tell his wife and apologise to her, but her sister has left their house to somewhere else because she cannot stand the shame and betrayal.

He's also threatening to arrest her if anything happens to the pregnancy. His wife has suffered more than one miscarriage in their 8 years of marriage.

So this is not a case of both of them having fertility issues. It's just unfortunate that the pregnacies have not been carried to term.

The wife is the first daughter and first child. And she has just one brother that her husband pays his school fees.

He wants to know if his decision to tell his wife and marry her younger sister is a good decision.

I have only replied him with "Hmmmmm".

AJD.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

A man has been in a relationship for 6 years, and he has already started planning to marry his girlfriend.

Then on one of her visits, he discovered a medication that his fiancée had in her bag.

Curiosity made him ask her about the medication.

She said it was for skin improvement. He didn't believe her, so he memorized the name of the medication and, when she left, decided to Google it.

He discovered that the medication was for a mental health disorder.

It turns out to be schizophrenia.

Then he confronted her with his findings.

That was when she confessed that it was true.

The man is heartbroken.

She hid such vital information from him in their many years of relationship.

Only for him to discover it after he had already collected the marriage list.

She is pleading that she is sorry for hiding such information.

Her mother claims that she thought her daughter had already told him all along.

Now they're asking him to let them know if he still wants to go on with the wedding plans or if they should move on.

His father is heartbroken but has advised his son to move on if he knows that he cannot live with a wife who has schizophrenia.

The man is finding it hard to accept this, because, according to him, the lady has been good to him and has sacrificed a lot for him.

He's 31 and she's 29.

I sympathize with him, but I know what schizophrenia is, and I frown at the secrecy all these years.

I also know that marriage goes beyond just feelings and love; it takes much more.

Marriage thrives on 3 pillars:

1. Kindness
2. Selflessness
3. Deliberate commitment

The young man and his fiancée are both Agbafians.

He told me that if she sees this post, she will be hurt.

However, I decided to share it regardless, because it is a very important message and lesson that I want to pass to you, my audience.

There are certain things you should not hide from your intended partner, especially things regarding your health and anything you feel will be a lifetime burden on your partner.

You should not lead someone on to get them to love you, or get emotionally attached to you before you decide to spill.

As a matter of fact, this man would not have known if he hadn't accidentally stumbled on the medication.

Do you consider that fair or kind?

He would have inherited a lifetime struggle that he didn't bargain for or prepare for.

You stripped him of that power of choice and personal convictions by hiding such important information from him and were going to be his wife while still keeping him in the shadows.

I have wished the young man well in his future decision, but he has imagined her as his wife.

When you choose your wife, you choose your destiny.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

I pity some of these Gen Z men who are still going to marry Gen Z women.

The way they're playing into the hands of these young women and doing their bidding is downright appalling.

And when you even try to correct them & show them the right path, they dismiss you like you're trying to mislead them.

I saw a video of a Gen Z wife proudly saying that her mother visited them and was trying to call her attention to the things she wasn't doing right in her husband's house and was worried about her, but she dismissed her mother's concerns because according to her, her husband is okay with her behavior.

I just smiled after watching her video.

The level of foolishness or wokeness that you young men display is so loud in the women that you're dating and will marry.

It's not a curse, but many of you will get tired of your marriage before 10 years.

And the damage that you would have caused will be irreparable.

Consider it a failure on your part, if your parents' marriage outlive yours.

Because it shouldn't be, since you claim to be more exposed, more educated and more enlightened.

End.

[Macbright Amadon @Macbright90]

Most people on this page will have a serious problem in their relationship if they live their lives based on what “Agba said”

You are here to learn, unlearn and relearn and be sensible and not to live according to Agba.

You are not living for Agba and you are not marrying for Agba. It's your life, it's your choice.

Agba is a teacher and counsellor, so it's up to you to filter what will help your life and relationships and apply it.
A wise person lives by principles and a principled life is a balanced life📌

Some of you who always run to his Dm for validation will self-destruct.

Any little thing, you slide a DM to report your boyfriend or your girlfriend.🤔
And let me tell you, you don't even know Agba, so why rely so much on him without applying common sense to build your own relationship?

Remember, Nobody is gonna get it all right! There is no perfect life. There's no perfect relationship out there. Just Learn. Pray. And face the reality.

Odiegwu📌

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Once you advise your brother or sister not to marry someone, and he or she decides to do otherwise, you should respect their decision.

But, know that you cannot keep pretending not to know why they are no longer close to you.

Because their spouse will never like you.

End.

[Wizzy @IamWisdomGbenga]

My Dad told me this but in a different way.

He said, "never advise any of your friends in any of these two situations."

If your friend wants to marry a Girl, never advice not to marry that Girl.

If he finally marry her, he will tell her you advised him not to marry her and she may not like you or she may disgrace you the day you visit their home and eat.

Secondly, if your friends wants to build a house, do not advice him otherwise.

Because if he refuses your advice and build the house anyway, the day rain beat you and uou use the house as a shelter, ne will remind you of your advice.

You will be shamed that day.

I did not listen to the first advise.

I told my friend not to marry his current wife and he did anyway.

One day, I visited them after about 4 years in marriage and she cooked pouunded yam. It was delicious and she came to pack the plates.

I thanked and appreciated her.

When we were done and taking wine at their home bar, that was when my friend jokingly told the wife that I advised him not to marry her.

The way she was shocked and looked at me that day...

The shame was intense

I remembered immediately what my Dad told me.

Agba, many of the things you share here are timeless truth but most of them
will never relate with these words you speak.

Until they become the victim of such truth

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Do not empower your wife because you're hoping that she'll feed you and pay your bills without grumbling should your finances go south.

Empower her with the hope that she may be kind to your children.

As for you, if she extends that kindness to you, give glory to God.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

When you marry a young lady at her early prime (19-25), she'll think that getting married to a man is an easy thing because at that time, she has not really experienced heartbreak and isn't desperate.

So she'll not take her marriage seriously, and most of her friends or mates are still single, no kids and are "balling".

When you marry a lady in her late prime (26-35), she'll do all she can to make that marriage work because she has experienced certain things and knows how difficult it's to win a man's commitment.

And she had already enjoyed her youth and now feels that it's time to settle down. Her mates are also getting married, and she's experiencing both family and societal pressure.

And she'll hardly cheat in marriage unlike the under 25s. And she'll not punish her husband by cheating back because he cheated.

She'll also not have too many friends anymore and most likely will be no longer a student but a worker who understands the value of money.

Before she does things, she'll be very calculating and will have more concern for her reputation to protect.

You can never downplay the impact that age and experience have in marriage when it comes to women.

The prefrontal cortex is not fully mature until after age 25, and it continues to solidify until the age of 32.

The prefrontal cortex is the part of the brain that controls decision making and thinking.

End.

[Clem Church @Orichy95]

@onyekanwelue Everytime I visit you profile, I always watch this video.
The pure joy 😊.
Blessings. 🙌🏾

[Master Togan @Getinwithgame]

She’ll get bored if you stay the same

Familiarity kills attraction faster than most men realize.

To keep her interest:

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Let me advise those of you young people in the corporate world.

If you have a colleague that both of you were mates in rank or position, and you were very close, and that colleague of yours later becomes your boss.

Do not say because you were once mates in position, then you think you can interact with him or her the same way.

Respect the authority that he or she is presently occupying and keep your distance.

Wait to see if he or she would still want you to be closer, before you know how to interact with them officially.

Your bosses take key decisions for the firm, even if that decision may affect you.

They have meetings that you're not privileged or qualified to attend.

If you keep trying to interact with that colleague simply because you were once close, you'll be shocked.

Where they're making decisions that may affect you, your once close colleague may throw you under the bus.

Especially if you work in a structured environment, where meritocracy is recognized over familiarity.

Your colleagues are mostly not your friends.

All of you are earning salaries just to get by.

Do your job diligently, so that your once close colleague that was at your level, will not be seen as trying to use his or her position to favour you unduly.

I didn't write this posts for illiterates or ignorant or entitled persons.

End.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Dear young men,

Especially those of you between the ages of 27-33 and are still single.

This is how you know that you may have found your wife:

1. She's highly interested in what you do legitimately for a living, actively trying to encourage you to build your career or business, and always looking out for other opportunities for you.

2. If you live alone, she takes initiatives without being told by observing your home and trying to buy things she knows you need to live a better life in preparation for marriage.

3. She will hardly ask you for money, not because she doesn't need it, but because it's easy for her to get money from other men. And she knows that taking money from other men is an "invitation to treat", and can destroy her relationship with you. And she wouldn't want to make you feel that she's with you for your money, too.

4. When you give her money to do certain things, either for you or for her, she'll try to give you an account of how she spent the money.

5. She keeps boundaries with your friends and doesn't try to compare you with them. Rather, she would look out for that friend whom she observes has your best interests at heart, and encourage you to stay close to him.

6. She will not use sex as a weapon in the relationship, neither would she use it as a bargaining chip.

7. She actively gives you updates on how her day went, and she doesn't come to your house with her phone on silent mode or airplane mode.

8. She will try to abide by how you like her to dress, and she'll listen to you when you caution her about certain behavior that you do not like.

9. She'll actively want you to know her siblings and show interest in and respect for your siblings as well.

10. She'll not hold back if you ask her to lend you money, if she has it. But you, the man, must keep to your words when paying her back.

11. She'll bend many rules for you, but you should not take undue advantage of it.

12. She'll stress you sometimes, and test you in as many ways as possible. She's doing all that to see how well you can lead her, and how well you can control your emotions or anger.

13. She'll make mistakes. But you should use it as a teaching moment for her. If you don't judge her too harshly, she'll start to listen to you more. When you make a woman trust you with her vulnerability, she'll overlook some of your excesses.

14. She'll actively seek your validation and yours alone; whatever you say is good for her, she will accept it. And she won't care what the world says or feels about her.

15. She will not force you to be religious, but she will actively observe whether you respect God, because a man without God may not be a good leader.

If you have a lady that can do at least 10 out of the 15, you may have found your wife.

And remember, when you choose your wife, you have chosen your destiny.

End.

[Master Togan @Getinwithgame]

Master the art of backhanded compliment. It’s a sharp way to tease and spark instant attraction.

Take a pretty girl who just got a new hairstyle. Hit her with this:

[Retainer @retainermethod]

When a girl starts feeling like you're too good for her, that's one of the strongest signs you're handling things correctly.

She might say things like:

[Master Togan @Getinwithgame]

She flakes, disrespects you, acts entitled, throws tantrums… but she’s hot, so you swallow it.

You tell yourself it’s worth it. Deep down you know it’s weak.

Hot p*ssy doesn’t give her a free pass to treat you like shit.

Real frame looks like this:

[Àgbà John Doe (back up) @jon_d_doee]

Gen Z remains the most unfortunate generation.

The Gen Alphas and Betas may do better than them.

Because they would see the destruction that the Gen Zs brought upon themselves.

And social media would be better regulated to protect them from impending destruction.

AJD.

[Master Togan @Getinwithgame]

By the time most men turn 35, they have already hit their peak.

Their looks are usually at their best, their body is still strong and energetic, their career and money are climbing or stable, and their value with women is highest. After that point:

[Master Togan @Getinwithgame]

Letting her get away with bad behavior without any consequences makes her quietly question your strength as a man.

The dangerous spiral this one mistake kicks off in her mind goes like this:

[Master Togan @Getinwithgame]

Master “man-to-woman” talk and she’ll stay happily inside your frame.

Stop having polite, boring conversations. Instead, use these tools constantly:

[Master Togan @Getinwithgame]

The red pill gives men the sharpest understanding of female nature.

It doesn’t sugarcoat. It reveals the raw truth about why women: