Competence is rare. Integrity is rare. Extraordinary ability paired with integrity is extremely rare. If you find someone with integrity who has the potential to be exceptionally competent, invest in them early, expose them to increasingly difficult problems, pay attention to how they behave under authority, reward the behavior to be repeated, teach them competence and integrate them in your systems.
Shaykh Abd al-Razzaq al-Badr حفظه الله said:
"A child can never repay their mother for the affair of childbirth."
فوائد مستنبطة من قصة لقمان الحكيم (۲۱)]
The truth most men find too late is that you are nothing without blood ties. all the wealth and status and women you chase is a pitiful mimic of the real thing that should have been your pole star from the start: your woman, children, lineage. God forbid we lose our way and raise a generation of runaway fathers chasing shiny nothings while their queen sit neglected, their castle crumbling, their offspring wandering lost like little ghosts through hallways that should have been filled with laughter and warmth. i am the tribe and the tribe is me. this is all i do, all i live, all i die for. let my bones be buried in the garden of my work, facing east to greet the dawn of another day spent on what is holy
If as a man you are the beneficiary of some form of altruism,
be eternally grateful to the person who helped you; such people are extraordinarily rare.