Robin 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍⚧️

Queer, neurodivergent, transmasc. He/They.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Everything we feel today, even the stupid, inconvenient, frustrating, confusing stuff, has information for us. Everything we feel can & deserves to be met w/ curiosity & patience.

We don't "have" to act on everything, or anything-- but we can't "stuff," deny, or disown it.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

It's never the wrong call to push pause & check in w/ what your senses can register. One sight; one sound; one scent; one texture. Dissociation wants to distance us from the here & now-- it thinks it's helping-- but here & now is where we can influence our next moment & decision.

[Dr. Jen Wolkin | ADHD + Trauma Therapist @drjenwolkin]

Part of why cognitive behavioral therapy doesn’t work for trauma survivors is because how can we help anyone stop catastrophizing when the LITERAL worst-case-scenario is stored in their mind body and brains? XO, Dr. Jen

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

One of the lesser-talked-about effects from spending years in survival mode, all of your energy is conditioned to activate when survival is at stake. You learn to function under threat, urgency, and fear—not desire, curiosity, or choice.
So when the abuse finally ends and you’re in a safe place, the nervous system doesn’t suddenly come back online. It often does the opposite.
You feel empty. Exhausted. Unmotivated.
Tasks that aren’t urgent or survival-linked don’t trigger energy release.
“Wanting” feels unimportant, not because you don’t care, but because wanting was unsafe or irrelevant for so long.

Now your system is relearning how to mobilize without the constant threat.
This isn’t laziness. It’s a predictable outcome of prolonged danger.
If this resonates, know this: your system kept you alive.
Show yourself some understanding — and respect.
You deserve it.

[Workplace Mental Health Resources @Stopworkplacebu]

Trauma isn't just about what happened. It's also about what didn't happen, like not being heard, supported, comforted, protected, or believed.

[Cloudy 🌥️ (real angel) @oncloud_e]

i get that moving on is healthy but it sucks that the people who have hurt me will forever escape the consequences of their actions. i want them to at least know the pain they gave me

[Aim True (Amy Pagett) @AimTrue7]

Survivors of abuse often shoulder so much blame & believe that other peoples actions are their fault.

This is the shame talking & it lies.

You are not responsible for what others do and their actions, as well as the consequences of those actions, belong to them, not you.

[𝗠𝘂𝗵𝗲𝗲 ♛ @muheediva01]

Many enablers would rather question your character than admit they protected someone who was lying, manipulative, and abusive.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

Staying the f*ck away from feelings & memories associated w/ our trauma does nothing but guarantee they will continue to live in our body, nervous system, & endocrine system exactly as they do right now.

If nothing changes, nothing changes.

[Defend Survivors @defendsurvivors]

Strangulation increases the risk for murder because strangulation is attempted murder.
#defendsurvivors

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

If you want to understand the life of a trauma survivor, ask them which hurt worst: The original trauma or not being believed? Then, just listen.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

I know what a big ask it can be to believe in your own goodness, when you're disgusted w/ what happened to you, and/or some of your responses to it. I know it feels like a risk-- but it's a risk I'm going to ask you to consider taking. Because if nothing changes, nothing changes.

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

Anxiety is often a natural response to an unnatural act done against you. It's common for the person responding to be blamed for their response, while the person who acted against them is protected. Your anxiety is not trying to lie to you. Enablers are. Perpetrators are.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

No forcing, no chasing, no begging. Repeat it like a mantra in your trauma recovery. Recovery levels up when we decide supplication & codependence is no longer part of our identity.

No forcing, no chasing, no begging. Not anymore. Not ever again.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

The most evil people look normal.
And they make their victims look like they have mental problems.
And that’s how they get everyone to dismiss the abuse trauma that they see with their own eyes.

[Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle @DrDoyleSays]

"Fawn" responders aren't looking for "attaboy's." We're responding from a nervous-system-deep conviction that if we're not entertaining or accommodating, we'll be in danger of punishment or rejection-- & we come by that conviction through experience.

[Living with Trauma & Dissociation @RhiaCrewe]

💜

[Libriscent @libriscent]

They’ll label you crazy to avoid admitting they were abusive.

[Ryan Daigler - Exposing Narcissistic Abuse 🚩🚩 @Ryan_Daigler]

You were never the problem.
They just need an excuse for the way they abused you.