The irony that hurt people are shamed for becoming estranged from abusive family members, while the abusive family members feel no shame at all. There is such hypocrisy in abusive systems.
Refusing to hold space for toxic people, not letting them worm their way into your life, and radically accepting that they will play the victim to tell others that you have no empathy and are heartless is top-tier self-care.
Oklahoma’s homicide rate is 47% higher than California’s.
Frightening to see the Senator of a state is “surprised” to hear his own crime rates, @SenatorLankford.
Don't trust experts
Next time you board a plane, push the pilot aside and fly it yourself
You've done your own research. You've watched Top Gun, right?
Welch: As someone who lives in a red state, let me just tell you what MAGA supermajorities get you. We're 50th in education. The worst in the whole country for women to live. We're poorer, worst health care. And if you look at the bottom ten states, they are all MAGA supermajorities. These policies hurt people. They use people's faith to lure them in and say, oh, we're family values. But then they don't vote to help women have children. They don't vote for health care. They don't vote for child care. They demean the poor.
This woman cooked MAGA.
“50th in education. Worst place for women. Bottom 10 in healthcare, childcare, wages—every one red.”
They preach family values but gut every policy that helps families survive.
@_Pammy_DS_ Well said. That’s what psychologists call post-traumatic growth: choosing to process pain in a way that builds wisdom instead of passing the wound forward. It’s not about excusing what happened, it’s about refusing to let someone else’s damage dictate your story.
The three big, common triggers for most CPTSD survivors are feeling trapped, feeling controlled; & feeling "in trouble."
They mirror the conditions that make complex trauma "complex:" it was inescapable, it unfolded over time, & it permeated our most important relationships.
If an outsider wants to spot who’s really the abuser in a narcissistic family system, the trick is to watch patterns, not just isolated incidents.
Narcissistic families run on image management, so the truth is usually the opposite of what they present. Here are some key clues: 🧵👇
Bill Maher: "The tariffs, that's not really something the president is allowed to do unilaterally."
George Will: "No. A constitutionally enumerated power of Congress is to regulate trade with foreign nations. Congress, in its absent minded way, has now become a spectator of government... I have a chronic, incurable trade deficit with my barber. I buy a haircut from her, she buys nothing from me."