@DrDoyleSays Exactly. Coerced "consent" isn’t consent, it’s compliance under threat.
Let’s stop pretending that power imbalances and fear don’t distort choice. This is how abuse hides in plain sight.
Narcissists don’t just leave out of the blue, they start a fight so they have an excuse to storm out.
That way, they can run to their other supply guilt-free,while blaming you for pushing them away.
The world doesn't see the years of silent torment. They only see the moment the survivor breaks.
Never judge a survivor by their worst moment. You might be seeing the result of years of abuse
@verndewd Right. But think about it. If you're a criminal and didn't want to be held accountable? This is what they do, discredit their victim story, character, and competence.
Abuse often begins with love bombing and survivors are exceptionally vulnerable to it.
Love bombing is a huge red flag. 🚩 🚩
Love bombing isn’t romantic.
It’s manipulative.
It’s the opening act of coercive control, flooding a survivor with affection to create dependency and blur red flags.
As a family lawyer, I’ve seen how it traps victims from the very start. 🧵
#LoveBombing #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse #SurvivorVoices #FamilyLaw
Malignant narcissists aren’t ashamed of their abuse — they’re proud of it. They see their manipulation, control, and exploitation as a form of superiority or cunning.
It doesn’t register to them as sick, deranged, or disgusting because they lack the empathy and conscience to view it that way.
To them:
Cruelty is a skill. Deceit is strategy. Other people are tools.
This mindset is why they often brag about how they “handled” someone, or smirk when you catch them in a lie. They don’t see what they’re doing as abusive — they see it as winning.
The worst psychopaths and malignant narcissists don’t look evil. They don’t look “dark“. They’re most often very friendly and speak confidently and in a way that makes you feel good or a part of something. This is their manipulative prowess.
This charm is weaponized. It’s not authentic — it’s part of a calculated persona they construct to gain your trust, admiration, or dependence. This false front is often referred to as a “mask”, and it's one of their most powerful tools.
They read people like instruments — figuring out what you crave emotionally (validation, safety, inspiration, connection) and then mirroring that back at you, making you feel seen, understood, or special. This is often called love bombing in romantic relationships, but it applies in friendships, therapy sessions, mentorships, even business.
Thats the hook.
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DARVO—Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender—is a tactic abusers use to confuse, silence, and control victims. #DARVO#CoerciveControl
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Covert narcissists try hard to make sure only their victims see their abusive side. Everyone else only sees a friendly, happy, normal person.
This is meant to make it harder, if not impossible for the victim to be believed when they come forward about the extent of abuse they experienced.
This works to isolate the victim further cut off from support or even worse, vilified for speaking the truth about their abuser(s).