ResilienceLifeCoach

Survivor and coach of recovery from relationship abuse, mother of a twice exceptional child, author, public speaker, homegrown New Yorker, just a lover of life

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

Cloudy thinking and confusion was one of my most overlooked symptoms of CPTSD. Know that these symptoms are dramatically improved once the trauma is processed and boundaries reduce triggers. Hold tight and do your best to meditate and distract yourself into peaceful secure state.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

Doubting yourself, losing a connection to the ability to choose is created through psychopathic necessity. It’s the doubt in self and false confidence in the psychopath that creates true devastation when discarded and betrayed. The smug attitude fosters despair and panic.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@LeftWithNothin1 It’s so trite to say “just move on” when the destruction is present in everyday function. It takes time and work to come to a place of peace from it. Justice always comes. It may not look how we expect or want but balance will always be restored.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@SlowBoiledFrog Know that you are not alone and they are never random. It’s telling you where the involuntary trauma response is. The pattern is showing you specifics on what is triggering you.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

I may not have anything to do with the rain of hell headed for my Ex sociopath but I’m making popcorn...that’s for sure! I’ll take my poetic justic with butter please! Thank you!

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@KelvieJay This is so true whether it’s a child or adult. When adults don’t believe a victim, it’s usually because of some vested interest. Even if its jealousy it always reeks of self-absorbed revictimization. Really have to deflect the ignorant and find empowerment in what we can control.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@jjuliejust @EmpathMech The haunting reminders of their creepy behaviors. Designed to shock and torment. The more we allow the truth in regarding how weak and sad they are underneath the tactics, the easier it is to reduce its presence or residual feelings after they are gone.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

Nightmares during and after the narcissist are very common. Though they can make insomnia even tougher to deal with, please think of the nightmare as inner conflict ID. These dreams often show us what aspects of our recovery skills we need to work on. A journal is helpful

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@JanJudd9 😊

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

Feel your power over you. Your thoughts, actions and dreams. All of these...we each choose. Freedom to choose is a power that we must learn or relearn how to use after the abusive relationship. This is the root of self-empowerment, peace and joy.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

Practice taking time to NOT think about the narcissist. This was a huge challenge for me in the beginning. I needed real distractions and it was still tough. But...know that consistent practice of shifting your thoughts will stick. Two minutes will soon grow to hours. Hang tough

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

It is insidious the way narcissists understand that this push and pull dynamic survives by a major codependent or one who is coming from an abusive past. The narcissist needing fuel and the victim desiring love but use to having to be the scapegoat dealing with abuse to chase it.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

The real revenge, poetic justice after the narcissist is finding and making a wonderful life with the beautiful energy which is no longer wasted on them. Use this experience to find a deeper knowing about the greatness you never knew you had. Persevere and ooze Resilience

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@TakeCourageMom A normal person would react with consideration and love for his children. They do not operate that way. They leave destruction and havoc in their paths for others to contend with. You are courageous and you will build from this courageous place.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@2KindsJustice @FBI Truth is...it’s not up to anyone else to decide when it’s time to move on. Sometimes fighting for justice is the only route to healing.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@2KindsJustice @FBI It’s never a choice with them. as long as you’re connected somehow. I.e married, children, emotionally...they will dominate by any means necessary. It’s never a choice...that’s the root of the abuse dynamic. By the time victims figure it out it’s gone too far.Their claws are out

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@2KindsJustice @FBI Wow! It’s never a choice for them as the right thing is irrelevant. They must feed the insatiable desire to dominate and manipulate. They do not fear prosecution as they believe they are superior to not only people but the justice system. Eventually they go too far...inevitable

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

@2KindsJustice Bankruptcy is what saved me from a similar situation. It’s a fresh start and relief from the pain of an aspect of the abuse and stress from the pigeon hold of the debt. There is power in innocence. It was empowering to find that solution.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

No matter what the victim is going through, their focus is always supply, ALWAYS how they can manipulate to extract supply out of it.

[ResilienceLifeCoach @ResilienceBuilt]

No matter how much time or destruction has passed, if a narcissist thinks there is a possibility of convincing reconciliation - Hoover time