Samantha Riser

M ‘01-27yrs together.HSexting,porn addict,affairs,$ loss. Began 1st baby(3 teens now).Yrs& yrs betrayal.H won’t separate but H doesn’t do the work.

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@SailingInfidel1 @EstherPerel For me social connection doesnt happen. His family you seek help but dont take it seriously. You cant tell reality-it jeopardizes your children&you begin to isolate yourself and one day cant fathom how you became so alone, reality-it is bc of his secrets you had to keep

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[The New Statesman @NewStatesman]

While we should be wary of generalising about differences between the sexes, girls do face some specific psychological challenges.

For example, girls tend to be more objectified by porn and girls can compare and despair with influencers sharing their perfect bodies.

[GLISI @GLISI]

"We either own our stories or they own us. Only when we have the courage to own our history are we able to write a brave new ending to our story. This true in our lives, our families, our communities, and our country." - @BreneBrown

[Samuel_Healing @Infidelityscars]

Progress requires action and intentionality in repair work. As long as we make excuses we don’t make progress and there will ALWAYS be ample excuses available to use. Get better. Be better. Get rid of your own excuses and dig deep. Real deep.

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@Infidelityscars I keep having this conversation w/my https://t.co/zie5XFSsd1.5yrs from the last affair of multiple betrayal ddays I have proof of, one a long term co worker.Gut feels more.Mentally,physically I can’t do this https://t.co/0nu4f7hiHu’s not enough without trust etc.I want intimacy.

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@lifebycourage I’m so sorry. I’ve watched my mother my entire life and it’s awful. I fear for my teenagers every day. I pray one day your son’s heart opens and his mind opens to a better life ahead without vaping. Hugs for strength.

[Andrew G. Marshall - Therapy @andrewgmarshall]

"It is a fact of life for all of us – bad days will happen" - wise words.
My mantra "accept the feeling, challenge the thoughts" might help on these days too...ie, I feel sad, I feel angry...but it's generally not true that "I'll never be happy again", or "everything is ruined".

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

THIS! My MIL gave me a prayer to say daily.Back then I took it on me to try harder at everything. EVERYTHING. Guess what he did. He went deeper into addictions and had multiple affairs until I emerges one day and “looked”. Pandoras Box. I can’t believe what I did to myself-10+yrs

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@betrayaltrauma THIS! My MIL gave me a prayer to say daily.Back then I took it on me to try harder at everything. EVERYTHING. Guess what he did. He went deeper into addictions and had multiple affairs until I emerges one day and “looked”. Pandoras Box. I can’t believe what I did to myself-10+yrs

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@Infidelityscars In a home w/multiple ddays.A man who has actually hurt you more since.Deflects and more,makes it feel impossible.I have been actively doing my own work.Will have to draw the line bc he is coasting for 5 solid yrs.Recovery looks impossible if not foolish for me to think about.

[Samuel_Healing @Infidelityscars]

Trauma will do that to you. Be kind to yourself my friends.

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@Infidelityscars Y, Days I am over productive. Days I struggle to gain momentum bc my mind is pulling me back into the reality of the repeat https://t.co/GxhXFa32Wc I’m treading water, striving to keep my head above for oxygen but my efforts slowed by the water trickling into my throat.

[Samuel_Healing @Infidelityscars]

Self-hatred, self-sabotage and self-deprecation are barren wastelands. There is more for you and more for your future. They are not your friends, not your motivators and not your comforters. They are never satisfied. They are never content. They never lead you home.

[Samuel_Healing @Infidelityscars]

We have to accept that it exists. Until THEN, our growth is stumped, our heart is suffocated and our momentum is incremental at best. I see you.

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@Infidelityscars Except where you have someone who literally will not choose the opportunity to work. On themselves on their marriage. I stopped. He regressed even more. Now he uses it against me. In a passive aggressive nature. He wants a road map but then resents you for it. No win.

[Samuel_Healing @Infidelityscars]

We can’t do THEIR work for THEM. If we want to get healthy we must do what it takes. It’s frustrating. It’s agonizing. It’s even irritating but they must do their own work.

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

I am trying....

[Samantha Riser @RiserSamantha]

@Infidelityscars @lovelylittlere1 Best news I’ve read in a long time! Be well and safe. Happy New Year!