Ruth Hartes (REM)

Texas mom writing diary-style women’s fiction about multicultural families finding joy in timeless values.

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@DieselBABE20 I was married for 7 years before becoming a Mother. He was the first baby I ever held, & even after sleep deprivation I now believe kids aren’t burdens on life. They make life’s burdens worth bearing❤️ But when I hear “gestating parent” it carries none of that weight.

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@turnedwife My kids made me pro-life. My husband & I have more responsibilities now than at any other point (kids, in-laws etc.) I’ve personally gotten the impression that “pursuing self” or “freedom” means valuing a lack of responsibility. But we are also the happiest we’ve ever been❤️

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@MattWalshBlog Adoption? My Mom teaches special needs children. Many of them are adopted. I think there’s 1-2 million people ready to adopt anytime, especially babies. Babies always get adopted. Just because they refuse to keep their baby doesn’t make the baby unwanted. There’s no such thing.

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@HumansNoContext Ah lovely 🥰 I think we got the dog version. When we got her as a puppy we were told she’s a Golden-Pyrenees mix. 90lbs later and it turns out that’s GREAT Pyrenees 😂❤️

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@nienna121 I believe no other ‘personal pursuit is accommodated as strongly’ because there’s no comparison. I was nervous about kids. My son was the first baby I ever held, and even after sleep deprivation, he taught me kids aren’t burdens on life. They make life’s burdens worth bearing❤️

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@allie__voss My Mom teaches special needs children. Many of them are adopted. I think there’s 1-2 million people ready to adopt anytime, especially babies. Babies always get adopted. Just because they refuse to keep their baby doesn’t make the baby unwanted. There’s no such thing.

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@BenZeisloft @MattWalshBlog My Mom teaches special needs children. Many of them are adopted. I think there’s 1-2 million people ready to adopt anytime, especially babies. Babies always get adopted. Just because they refuse to keep their baby doesn’t make the baby unwanted. There’s no such thing.

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@LisaBritton There are some valid hesitations (like choosing carefully). But for me, Marriage & Children are my best decisions. Kids completely upgraded my identity. They showed me what is truly important & made me better. Kids aren’t burdens on life. They make life’s burdens worth bearing❤️

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@ResisttheMS This is true🥰 My husband & I were married for 7 years before our first. I was nervous. He was the first baby I ever held, and even after an impressive amount of sleep deprivation I will now and forever say; kids aren’t burdens on life. They make life’s burdens worth bearing❤️

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@GiaMMacool I think Men are getting a bit of a bad rap. I even used to believe they had a “natural oppressive tendency.” Thankfully it didn’t stick because of my great Husband & Father. But now I have 2 sons. I’m personally convinced men are sweethearts. The bad ones are made, not natural❤️

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My littlest was sitting on the floor flipping through a book while I read it for him.

We finished, he picked it up, waddled over, plopped right into my lap, and asked to read it again in the sweetest baby babble…

I have no words 🥰📖👶

#MomLife #BabyMilestones

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@clareanneath My husband & I were married for 7 years before our first. I was nervous. He was the first baby I ever held, and even after an impressive amount of sleep deprivation I will now and forever say; kids aren’t burdens on life. They make life’s burdens worth bearing❤️

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@SahilBloom “Freedom.” My husband & I have been married 10 years. We have more responsibilities now than at any other point (kids, in-laws etc.) I’ve personally gotten the impression that valuing this “freedom” is valuing lack of responsibility. But we are also the happiest we’ve ever been❤️

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@huwhitememes @SovereignIM Congratulations on your upcoming marriage❤️ 🎊

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@GigaBasedDad Yep❤️Marriage & children are my best decisions. I don’t think Motherhood “stole” my identity. Changed yes. But for me, kids upgraded my identity. They showed me what is truly important & made me better. Kids aren’t burdens on my life. They make life’s burdens worth bearing❤️

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@TheLaurenChen Marriage & children are my best decisions. I also don’t think Motherhood “stole” my identity. Changed yes. But for me, kids upgraded my identity. They showed me what is truly important & made me better. Kids aren’t burdens on my life. They make life’s burdens worth bearing❤️

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@GiaMMacool I have a 2 & 1 year old. My in-laws also live with us. I have the most responsibility I’ve ever had in my life. I’m also the happiest I’ve ever been. I don’t think this is a coincidence. For me, taking care of others (husband included) brings a new value to caring for myself❤️

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I carefully covered my littlest in bug spray before we went out in the backyard…

So of course a mosquito immediately bit him right on top of his head 😤

I guess his little fuzzy kiwi hair isn’t quite the shield I thought it was 🥺😅

#MomLife #ToddlerLife #ParentingHumor

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@WhiteBabyFac I completely understand❤️ with my first I was so sleep deprived most days I couldn’t drive. Juggling priorities was a real struggle. So just in case anyone else wants a little of the same advice that helped me❤️