Spanish Trad Chad

Catholic, Husband, Father, Spaniard/Basque, “Right-Wing” Health & Fitness. Good food, great wine, and excellent company.

[Spanish Trad Chad @SpanishChad]

@ZackStrength You’re missing how good they could be if they went full carnivore. They would go from good to great if they would just throw off the shackles of carbs.

[Will Knowland @beherleader]

They have sex again.

She even says, truthfully, that the marriage is better than it has ever been.

And yet he still feels alone.

He doesn't know how to say this without sounding weak, self-pitying, or demanding.

So he usually doesn't say it. He just keeps going.

What does he need from his wife that he often doesn't say?

He needs her to be glad he exists, not just glad he is useful.

He needs warmth that isn't transactional.

He needs respect in her tone, especially when he fails.

He needs his sincere apologies to be received, not left hanging in the air like unpaid debts.

He needs encouragement, not only correction.

He needs her to notice strain before it becomes collapse.

He needs affection that is not merely sexual and not merely occasional.

He needs companionship, not just cooperation.

He needs to feel that someone is for him inside his own home.

Many husbands don't say this because they think they should be above needing it. They think their burden is to give, absorb, steady, protect, and continue. They think asking for comfort sounds childish. They think saying, “I need more kindness from you,” sounds like begging. So they stay silent. They become more dutiful on the outside and more starved on the inside.

Then the wife often misreads him.

She sees competence and assumes strength without cost.

She sees silence and assumes peace.

She sees provision and assumes he is fulfilled by responsibility alone.

She sees him functioning and assumes he is fine.

She focuses on the children and slowly stops thinking of her husband as someone who also needs to be nurtured. He becomes the background structure of her life. Necessary, valuable, relied upon, but no longer carefully tended.

This is how wives fail not by open rebellion but by neglect.

They fail by speaking to him with a sharpness they would never use on a guest.

They fail by turning every disappointment into proof that he has not really changed.

They fail by keeping old wounds on a short leash, ready to be pulled out whenever he stumbles.

They fail by receiving his effort as an overdue payment rather than as a gift.

They fail by making the home a place where he is evaluated more than welcomed.

They fail by noticing his faults faster than his faithfulness.

They fail by mothering the children with tenderness and addressing the husband with irritation.

They fail by wanting him to understand every shade of their feelings while making little effort to understand the burdens he carries without complaint.

They fail by forgetting that men often need simple things said plainly:

“Thank you.”
“I see how much you are carrying.”
“I am proud of you.”
“You do a lot for us.”

A husband does best for his family when he feels respected and wanted.

He begins to wither when he feels merely used.

That is the part many wives don't see. He may continue to lead, work, repair, earn, organise, initiate, and show up. He may keep his promises. He may remain sexually available. He may stay outwardly calm. But inwardly he starts to believe that his highest value is his output. He feels less like a husband and more like a worker drone in his own house. He starts to wonder whether companionship was ever really meant for him, or whether marriage simply means becoming useful enough to be tolerated.

He rarely says that out loud.

When he does try, he often says it badly. He brings it up at the wrong time. He sounds flat when he should sound warm. He mixes hurt with accusation. He lets an old grievance piggyback on a real need. Then she hears criticism instead of hunger, and the moment collapses.

But his poor delivery does not mean the need is false.

A husband needs more than food, sex, and orderly children.

He needs admiration, tenderness and peace.

He needs his wife to care about the state of his heart, not only the state of the household.

He needs to be forgiven with some generosity when he repents sincerely.

Yes, he has faults. But marriage decays when the husband’s need for affection, encouragement, and honour becomes invisible.

Many wives think they are asking for very little when they ask their husbands to keep improving. Sometimes they are asking for one thing too many: improvement without refreshment, leadership without comfort, repentance without mercy, labour without delight.

A man can live like that, but he can't thrive like that.

One of the wife's central callings is not merely to benefit from his strength, but to strengthen him; not merely to be served by his steadiness, but to become a place of rest for it; not merely to judge whether he is doing enough, but to love the man who is doing it.

He doesn't need more management, more criticism or more tests.

What he needs is more warmth.

More honour.

More gratitude.

More cheer.

More mercy.

More chosen affection.

More companionship.

More signs that, to one woman in the world, he is not only useful but understood and appreciated.

[Kangmin Lee | 이강민 @kangminlee]

It's pretty obvious at this point that being right-wing boils down to observing reality and stating it plainly

Leftism is the denial of reality in service of delusional utopian fantasies, peak retardation, and degeneracy

[mert @mert]

"ive been in office for 13 years and our yearly budget is 7 trillion but we can't help children unless we steal from the guy doing spaceflight"

[Will Knowland @beherleader]

Marriage Lessons Most Men Learn Too Late

Some sins are sins of omission: you failed to give a due good. You should have listened, acted, led, protected, or spoken, and you did not.

Other sins are sins of commission: not merely missing acts, but deformed acts. You did act, but badly. You spoke harshly. You shut her down. You flirted with ambiguity. You used silence, anger, or self-pity instead of truth and charity.

In marriage, both matter.
Sometimes the wound is the good you withheld. Sometimes it is the disorder you introduced.

With that in mind, here are 8 lessons for men who want to improve their marriages:

1. Start with empathy, not correction.
When your wife says, “I feel like I’m doing everything,” do not rush to prove your case. Do not say, “That’s not true,” even if you think it is exaggerated. Start with reality as she experiences it.
Say: “I can see this feels heavy for you. Tell me more.”
Aquinas teaches that a human act is good when reason rightly orders it to the good. Defensiveness is usually passion outrunning reason. Slow down. Listen first. Then act.

2. Replace vague helpfulness with concrete service.
A lot of men live in “How can I help?” mode. That sounds nice, but it often leaves the mental load with her. Better to take responsibility for a task and finish it end to end.
Do the dishes. Put the children to bed. Sort the school forms. Book the appointment.
Virtue lives in repeated acts. You don't become a good husband by having good intentions. You become one by doing good things consistently until they become stable habits.

3. Measure progress by your duties, not by her mood.
Many men make the same mistake: they monitor her mood all day and call that leadership. It is not leadership. It is insecurity.
Your job is not to manage her emotions. Your job is to be a better husband and father. If you become more attentive, more disciplined, more truthful, more protective, and more present, peace often follows. But peace is the fruit, not the target.
Focus on the cause, not the symptom.

4. Build friendship every day.
Your wife is not your adversary. She is your companion. Marriage is not only a legal bond or a domestic arrangement. It is a lifelong friendship ordered to shared life, fidelity, and mutual help.
That means you need daily connection that is actually pleasant. Not an interview. Not a problem-solving meeting. Not a performance review.
Go for a walk. Read together. Play a board game. Sit on the sofa without your phone. Listen to music.
A man who only approaches his wife to discuss logistics should not be surprised when warmth dies.

5. Ask better questions when she is unclear.
Sometimes your wife will not explain herself neatly. She may say, “I don’t know, it’s just everything.” Weak men mock that. Proud men dismiss it. Wise men help bring clarity.
Say:
“What feels heaviest right now?”
“When do you feel most alone?”
“What would make the biggest difference this week?”
Prudence deals with reality as it is, not as you wish it were. Good questions are an act of love.

6. Put hard boundaries around other women.
This should be obvious, but many men still fail here because they fear awkwardness, disapproval, or professional fallout.
If another woman starts crossing a line, shut it down quickly and cleanly. Do not flirt with ambiguity. Do not buy time. Do not manage the optics.
Say: “That’s not appropriate.”
Or: “I keep this professional.”
Or simply: “No.”
Justice means giving each person what is due. Your wife is owed fidelity, honour, and security. She must know that no other woman gets a rival claim on your attention or loyalty.

7. Find the fear beneath your cowardice.
Aquinas teaches that fear can lessen freedom, but it does not excuse you when reason still remains. If you know what is right and still dodge it because you fear anger, rejection, conflict, or loss, that is cowardice.
Name the fear.
Are you afraid of her anger? Your boss’s anger? Looking foolish? Losing money? Being disliked?
Once you name it, you can train against it. Practise small acts of courage every day. Speak plainly. Disagree calmly. Hold the line in little things. Fortitude grows by use.

8. Be willing to pay the price for virtue.
At some point, being a good husband will cost you something. Comfort. Approval. Money. Ease. Image.
Good. Pay it.
A man who keeps his income but loses his wife’s trust has made a disastrous trade. A man who protects his marriage, tells the truth, and honours God may suffer in the short term, but he remains whole.
That is fortitude: not bluster, not aggression, but firmness in the face of pain for the sake of the good.

SUMMARY
If you want a better marriage, do not ask first, “How do I get her to respond better to me?”
Ask:
Where do I lack virtue?
Where have I failed in companionship?
Where have I been passive?
Where have I feared people more than God?
Where have I left my wife carrying what I should have carried?
And in the things I am doing, where is the disorder?

Then pick one concrete action for today.
Not next month. Today.

Listen without correcting.
Finish one burden she carries.
Plan one simple connection ritual.
Set one clear boundary.
Tell one hard truth calmly.

That is how men rebuild marriages.
Repeated good habits.

[Homeland Security @DHSgov]

GOD BLESS AMERICA 🇺🇸

[Just Loki @LokiJulianus]

On the 6th year of his reign and 80th year of his life, the American Caesar settled a skirmish with the Parthians and hosted a circus maximus on the lawn of his estate. Much rejoicing was had, although consternation was felt among his enemies, wretched dogs that they are ...

[Will Knowland @beherleader]

How Passivity Kills Masculinity

A husband loses his job.

He's sad, but that doesn't make his wife find him less attractive.

But what comes next does...

He sleeps in.

Avoids calls.

Numbs himself with his phone.

Makes vague plans.

Leaves bills unopened on the counter.

Says, “I just need more support right now,” but never takes action.

He wants comfort, not responsibility.
Reassurance, not resolve.
Sympathy, not sacrifice.

Now something in her starts to harden.

Because he's passive.

Another husband loses his job and feels the same sadness.

He tells his wife the truth.
Admits the pressure.
Lets her see his disappointment.

But the next morning he gets up early, updates his résumé, calls three people, cuts expenses, takes temporary work if needed, prays, and keeps leading the home with steadiness.

He's gentle with his wife.
Present with their children.
Honest about the burden.

But he doesn't collapse into neediness or surrender to comfort.

So he becomes more attractive in hardship, not less.

[BowTiedYukon @BowTiedYukon]

22 year old fitness influencers tell you that you need 8 hours of sleep, stretching followed by a good warm up, train scientifically, the sauna, a cold plunge and no microplastics

Most fathers are running on 5 hours of sleep, 400mg of caffeine, a quick warm up, crush a lift, meat & potatoes & disciple to get through the day

The world was built by men who showed up tired, not by men waiting for perfect conditions

[Pamela Hensley🇺🇸 @PamelaHensley22]

Her own district, which she serves on the council, didn't vote for Raman. If her own constituents wouldn't even support her, why would anyone else? Now she's magically "surging" while the rest of the field is flat? This is election fraud, plain and simple.

[Cernovich @Cernovich]

2020 all over again.

[Will Knowland @beherleader]

When a man fails to cherish his wife, he also fails himself.

By withholds honour from her as a woman, he diminishes himself as a man.

Remind your wife, often and plainly, that she is the only woman in the world for you.

Tell her. Show her. Prove it in a hundred small ways.

A cherished wife becomes softer, freer, more radiant in her femininity. And what is loved tends to come alive.

Masculinity is not proved in grand gestures but refined and revealed in daily devotion.

The little things done every day make the biggest difference over the decades.

[Cash Loren @Cashloren]

Spencer Pratt received ZERO votes out of 24,000 votes in the late-night LA drop.

The probability of that happening is in the trillions. The Democrats are cheating.

[Spanish Trad Chad @SpanishChad]

@quantumfiber Will do it’s our entire neighborhood in Nampa that’s out.

[Spanish Trad Chad @SpanishChad]

@quantumfiber hey your internet is down in the western Treasure Valley (Boise Metro) area. My entire neighborhood is down and yet your outage tracker doesn’t show it and there’s over an hour wait to call someone

[Sachin Jose @Sachinettiyil]

Los Angeles mayoral candidate Spencer Pratt knelt in prayer before an icon of Saint Jude, seeking the intercession of the patron saint of impossible causes.

Image: Spencer Pratt

[80s Nostalgia Channel @80s_channel]

Our childhood in a single picture..

[Bishop Robert Barron @BishopBarron]

The horror film “Obsession” is a surprise hit at the box office this summer. Made for around one million dollars, it has already grossed over a hundred and fifty million. But it's not only a financial success; it's also a spiritually quite interesting film. What drives the plot is a young man's ardent desire to be loved by the woman whom he loves. Seeking a gift for Nikki in an occult store, Bear finds a device that advertises itself as “One Wish Willow.” If you break the stick and make a wish, it will come true. In his desperation, he follows the instructions, and it works like a charm. The previously diffident Nikki becomes totally devoted to the delighted Bear. All his dreams, it seems, have come true. Then things go, shall we say, south. I won't spoil any more of the plot. Suffice it to say that Nikki proceeds to devour the young man and push him toward despair.

Throughout this film, I kept thinking of Oscar Wilde's famous line: “the only thing worse than not getting what you want is getting what you want.” The spiritual issue here is one that the masters have recognized for centuries and one that stands at the very heart of Biblical revelation: if you tie your deepest desire to anything or anyone other than God, you will find, not satisfaction, but destruction. This is the moral teaching behind the great Shema prayer: “Hear, O Israel, the Lord your God is Lord alone.” Jesus reiterates this when he says, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and all your strength.” The psalmist affirms it when he sings, “Only in God will my soul be at rest.”

During the rite of Confirmation, I ask the young people a series of questions, the first of which is “do you renounce Satan and all his works and empty promises?” Up and down the ages, Satan has made the same empty promise: I will give you something less than God and it will make you happy. In point of fact, it will ruin you, and the more you seek to acquire it, the unhappier you will become. What becomes clear in the course of “Obsession” is that the owners of the occult shop where Bear bought the fateful wish-willow are in fact involved with very dark spiritual powers. In my conversations with exorcists, I hear over and over again that those who get ensnared by the devil commence by dabbling in the occult.

“Obsession” is a good horror movie. If you like the genre, and you're not too squeamish, go see it. For it won't just scare you; it will offer some important spiritual truths.

[Raphael’s Sai @The4thTurtleNyC]

They really used AI to try and slander Henry because no one is going to see their Supergirl movie.

DCU fans are a cancer.

[Give A Shit About Nature @giveashitnature]

If you see a fox in your neighborhood, be glad. A red fox eats roughly 2,000 mice, rats, and voles a year. They help keep tick-carrying rodent populations in check, which reduces local Lyme disease risk. Don't call animal control. Just watch.