Zizi 🏆

Not everything you do needs to be seen or heard

[RNB RADAR @rnbradar]

If you're under 35 and these 16 songs are in your rotation, your listening age is 55

[R Vizzle @RickyFromMiami_]

You will literally never hear from me again, and you’ll be lucky to even see me. A master at getting tf on and never looking back. 😂

[Monarchive @__sugarvenom]

Did you not watch oomf’s reviews on tik tok😭😭😭😭😭

[Lindani M. @LyndaniM]

Three signs that that man was never really loyal to you. And I say this because I'm a man and I know how men think:

[Tshepo @tshepo_m03]

Track ID: Mr O & Funk Deepstar feat. Ckenz Voucal - Got This Feeling

Video Credit: @SoulCandi

[Giovanni Ifedi-Williams @TheGiovannis]

I did not grow up watching my parents practise 50/50.

My dad once narrated to me how my mother carried the financial responsibility of the family at a time when he had no job. After their wedding, she paid 5 years' rent with her own money. She bought him a Peugeot 504 Evolution, his first car, and was patient until he learnt how to drive. She sponsored him through his https://t.co/JWyl546KXy. at UNIZIK.

My mother worked at USAID and earned very well. Dad had no job, but was never laid back.

And this was a woman who had rejected a marriage proposal from a German man who was completely in love with her. But she chose my father because she wanted a man she could build a new life with.

My dad even told me that, apart from the bride price he paid, my mother sponsored that elaborate wedding.

Yet, in the midst of these, she never weaponized any of these. Instead, she packaged her husband differently to her family until he found favour, and got his feet elevated around 1999.

Yet throughout that period, my mother submitted to her husband 💯. I never saw her spend money without his approval. The respect she gave her husband was extraordinary.

Those two people never had an argument or disagreement in my presence.

Now, that was the marriage I grew up watching.

I observed it. I internalised it. And I began to see marriage through that lens.

My mother eventually left USAID in 2005. Today, my father is the financial pillar of the entire family.

The Anambra man literally practises 100/0 till today. He will detonate a grenade on anyone that disrespects his wife or tries come between him and his wife.

There was this day my mom took me out on a date. While we were eating, she opened up to me about why she married my father.

She told me she saw a king in him, a man fighting to build a kingdom. She talked so grand and inspiring; I just sat there eating and listening.

So when he asked her out, she said yes because she knew that God had not blessed her with resources, networks, and opportunities so she could spend them on bags, shoes, wigs, vacations and hoeing around.

She said any woman who is not willing to become the primary resource that builds her man's empire, should have no business desiring marriage.

I did not understand this as a woman becoming inferior to her man, or disappearing for her man to be seen. I understand as purpose.

People need to recognize that marriage is not two people sharing bills. It is two people building something that neither of them could have built alone.

This is why I find some of the things I read from both men and women on this app about relationships and marriage extremely wack and strange. Some of the takes sound more like foolishness acquired from life and more like people designing theories around their fears, insecurities and unresolved childhood experiences.

This is why my mother would never tolerate just any woman around me.

In fact, the woman who eventually disappointed me was someone my mother had warned me about.

And this is where my disagreement with the obsession over 50/50 begins.

I believe 50/50 people are trying to turn marriage into some accounting system where each partner must bring in half of their income for the marriage equation to balance. That's nonsense if you ask me.

In marriage, you may start with 100/0, and move to 100/50. Then, eventually, with growth, stability, opportunity and shared responsibility, you move to 100/100.

There may even be seasons where the percentages change completely. No successful marriage started on 50/50.

My point is not that one spouse must permanently carry the other.

My point is that marriage should have enough trust, vision and commitment for one person to carry more when the other cannot, without turning that sacrifice into a debt.

[Sgoratjie @KolourMeKapes]

"Izinto ezakha umntu zintathu: isimilo, iintloni, isazela"

[zuu. @Socs1nz_]

Kunini ndiClaim(a) bra.

[Ghost Writer ✍️ @Prezain_LJ]

This might be an unpopular opinion, but if you are in a serious relationship with someone and, throughout the entire period of knowing each other, they never post you anywhere, I think you should ask yourself why. They may not be proud of you, they may be hiding you, they may be keeping other options open, they may have other people they are involved with, or they may simply be playing it safe.

These days, people are unnecessarily calculated about relationships. Everyone is so “woke” that even when they post their partner on WhatsApp, they sometimes limit the post to the very person they are supposedly showing off.

I’m genuinely curious: if you really like someone, they meet your standards, and you have seen how serious the relationship has become, why can’t you post them? Even if it is just on WhatsApp especially on their birthdays or other special occasions. Wouldn’t it be better to make the relationship visible so that if they already have commitments to other people, there is a greater chance of finding out early? Why are you hiding your man or woman?

I believe if Audrey Cyril had been posting Mr. Presh from when they started dating, it might not have taken until their engagement for some of those things to come to light. I’m not saying posting someone automatically prevents deception, but it can make certain things harder to hide.

“I’m never posting the person I’m dating on social media.” Why exactly? What are you hiding? What is the worst that can happen? If you eventually break up, will that stop you from posting someone else months later when you enter another relationship? Unless you already expect to jump from one relationship to another every few months.

If you genuinely like someone and believe the relationship is serious, I don’t understand the obsession with pretending they don’t exist. It is not the maturity you think that it is.

[SCARYSPONGE! @SussedSponge]

speaking of SpongeBob ending theories this one fucking nukes me man

[LEBO @Lebogangratau]

I do AI evaluations and earn in dollars. It's nice money but so much work, but worth it if you're consistent. It's called Mercor.

My last project I was making $55 per hour.

Here’s my Referal link if you want to try it out: https://t.co/hbPgjmUX3G

[Carmine @TheCarmineOne]

I remember Black R&B stations initially didn’t want to play this song. But it became so massive they had to.

Side note: this is Timberlake’s best vocal performance IMO.

[Emmy 🦋 @emmyxtweets]

Over communicating can become a form of begging. You explained how you feel. You told them what hurt you. You communicated what you needed, what you expected and what you hoped would change. They heard you. Sometimes we keep explaining because we’re hoping that if we find the right words, they’ll finally understand. But understanding was never the problem. They heard you. They just didn’t care enough to change. And you don’t have to keep begging someone to take seriously what you’ve already explained.

[Dia mond @fvckdiamond]

I heard somebody say a man’s pride can make him lose a woman who really just wanted to be loved the right way, and that made so much sense to me. Because most women are not asking for anything crazy. They just want consistency, honesty, effort, reassurance, respect, and to feel like they actually matter. But sometimes pride gets in the way of all of that. 1/3

[frogg.ech @ty_hotcommodity]

Clinician 👋🏼.
Couples therapy at any stage in a relationship is highly beneficial. The client is the relationship itself; that doesn’t mean the relationship is in trouble, but rather that it's willing to work to strengthen the connection. Please sign up for couples therapy EARLY.

[reni, the resource | finance & travel @xoreniii]

I actually think doing counseling before you’re engaged makes most sense

[✰ @whoisfolaa]

May you end up with someone who never stops having a little crush on you even after years together. Someone who still gets excited to see you, flirts with you like it’s the beginning, and looks at you like they’re falling for you all over again. 🥺❤️

[RNB RADAR @rnbradar]

19 years ago today, J. Holiday's 'Bed' hit No.1 on the R&B chart.

[IEC South Africa @IECSouthAfrica]

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[N’wa Mucanyi 🫶🏾 @KhananiShingan1]

A lady on TikTok says she wants to create an “ex review” website 😭😂 You sign up, create a profile and review the guy you dated. Other girls can search his name and see what they’re getting themselves into before investing 😭😭 I