i mean trans men saying male puberty isn’t traumatic for trans women (or anyone who doesn’t desire male puberty) is fucked. and vice versa. its just not **rape**. but it is absolutely traumatizing for a lot of trans ppl 😭
hm. no way to say this without people taking it wrong but. the way some of you talk about dysphoria and the effects that puberty had on your body makes me worry about how yall would handle ever becoming disabled.
@amirafaustina @futarch @nyanqueer_wren I'm not a woman if that's what you're trying to communicate? I'm not either a man or a woman that's the whole point of my personal gender transition
@amirafaustina @futarch @nyanqueer_wren I'm not a woman... You're making assumptions like I don't also want top surgery... Why are you calling me a woman when you don't want to be misgendered yourself?? I haven't been doing that to any of you yet you're unfortunately one of many who disrespects me over this.
@SoulbondV@futarch @nyanqueer_wren It's the only thing that guarantees infertility+unfortunately things I've tried didn't work and also IUD's are immensely painful so I'm not willing to fuck around when even putting tampons in caused me agony.
@PutariaAvioes@futarch @nyanqueer_wren Unfortunately surgery is only way for guarantee infertility and guarantee of removal of my Endo tissue but thank you this is something I've been dealing with and researching for many years. Unfortunately everything i've tried only reduced flow didn't stop it fully.
@jinxbrained@noildx @thaspout @futarch @nyanqueer_wren It is biological horror that makes me want to die, this is something i've been researching since I was at least 16 and I'm in my 20's now. Please don't put words into my mouth when you don't know me.
@noildx @thaspout @futarch @nyanqueer_wren Unfortunately BC isn't always an effective option especially when you have endometriosis. Hysterectomy is also the only guarantee of them removing all my Endo.
@thaspout @futarch @nyanqueer_wren Unfortunately not something that works for many like myself with heavier flows + hysterectomy is the only guarantee of infertility and for me pregnancy is worst dysphoria based fear I've had nightmares about since childhood.
@amirafaustina @thaspout @futarch @nyanqueer_wren I'm waiting for hysterectomy because nothing else has worked + it's the only thing that guarantees infertility which is a transition goal of mine actually.
@HappyTime1066@futarch @nyanqueer_wren I do appreciate you taking the time to try to make me aware of other potential non surgical routes, but unfortunately this is something I've been researching many years now and only finally found a nearby surgeon who's willing to perform hysterectomy on patients in mid 20's 🤞
@HappyTime1066@futarch @nyanqueer_wren Surgery is the only way for me unfortunately many people with heavier flows like myself need either uterine ablation(which isnt permanent) or hysterectomy. I also wish to be fully infertile and T doesn't guarantee this either even if it could make the bleeding stop.
@ohshesonline If bodily betrayal makes more sense than self betrayal that's fair too, personally it did feel self/biological betrayal because my body went through puberty young and I didn't even know blockers existed. I do think they should be more accessible for youth.
I will never know what it's like to experience AMAB puberty, but also go fuck yourself because AFAB puberty did cause me plenty of trauma in a different way too and I don't call myself a womban and bleeding every month makes me want to die. I'm sorry for you, but also fuck off.
@AbiAfterDark You're assuming puberty didn't alter my body in ways that also made me a target of sexual violence at a young age when I was a child who was also a DD cup and had male teachers dress coding me for not wanting to wear bras... Go fuck yourself
Don't be disingenuous, no one is claiming it's not traumatic. We're pushing back against the claims that "male puberty is rape" and that male puberty is worse for trans women than female puberty is for trans men.
Anyway, can we talk about important stuff instead of infighting: