@RobKuhn_ The phrase "the nuts" (or sometimes "dead nuts") was common slang for something that was absolute best or a great pleasure; delights like a good meal or successful venture.
It had a direct and widely understood sexual connotation in both Irish and Scottish "low" slang.
@shanaka86 Your "collapse and reconstruction" analysis is laughable: the UAE didn't pivot to neutrality after Iran's strikes—they slammed their Tehran embassy shut, yanked every diplomat out, summoned Iran's ambassador for a dressing-down, and affirmed US partnership as their "cornerstone"
@themightygwinn@SportsCenter@espn Wilt Chamberlain's iconic performance of 100 points in a single game...
Dylan: ... shameless pandering is beneath even ESPN. It's also not true— Kobe scored 48 in the second half against the Suns in 2006 and 52 in the first half against the Mavs in 2007.
Can't you people math?
@themightygwinn@SportsCenter@espn Ah, yes... The post-season bowl games .. the final games of two separate seasons being equivalent to two losses in one season... because ... you're cognitively impaired or just salty?
@GCBendixen@cliftonaduncan Having read the full corpora of the authors noted, I leave open the possibility that others have valued them differently than myself.
And what if we acknowledge that borderline behaviors often don't present prior to marriage? Should that person seek an immediate annulment or be true to the "sickness and health" portion of their vows?
I opted for the latter. Seven years later, despite heroic sacrifice to keep the family together and sincerely the best intentions, divorce #2 was unavoidable.
Can't say that would necessarily have been the case if I had better understood my own maladaptive patterns.
@GigaBasedDad The “absolute nuclear family”—meaning a household centered on two married parents and their children, independent from extended kin—has been the normative ideal in the West for roughly the past 150–200 years.
Pretending adult choices emerge pure and untainted ‘from the ether of agency’ is absurd. Free will operates on hardware, and trauma shapes the hardware.
Suppressing trauma doesn’t delete its effect on behavior—that’s not philosophy, that’s neuroscience.
Childhood trauma rewires your nervous system and decision-making patterns whether you ‘think about it’ or not.
Macho-Posturing, Evidence Ignorant, Contradictory, False Premise
Reflection on childhood isn't excuse-making. That’s like saying looking at a broken bone’s X-ray means you’re justifying limping.
Understanding a cause isn’t the same as avoiding responsibility—it’s literally the first step toward fixing it.
“It was what it was, move on,” but moving on effectively often requires processing trauma. Ignoring it doesn’t magically stop its influence. If anything, unexamined wounds dictate behavior more strongly.
Decades of psychological research say childhood experiences profoundly shape adult behavior. Pretending otherwise doesn’t make it true—it just makes you blind to what drives you.
This kind of “just tough it out” rhetoric pretends strength, but it’s fragile as hell. Real strength is staring at the ugly truth of where you came from and doing the hard work to rise above it
Promiscuity implies lack of discrimination and is distinct from "libidinous" or "non-virgin".
More nuanced terms might be: sociosexuality (willingness to engage in uncommitted sex) and erotic agency (sexual autonomy and the capacity to choose).
Erotic agency manifests differently by sex: for men, it lies in pursuit and success in initiating and achieving sexual access.
Female erotic agency is primarily expressed through selectivity, not activity. It's not in saying “yes,” but in the power to say “no.”
@askaya The ones that made me wait are the ones that got away.
Those I didn’t wait for? I convinced myself it wasn’t a red flag—and paid dearly for it.
@askaya If a man chooses a woman but she doesn't choose him, what would you call it?
("The Red Queen" Calvin Ridley is interesting and covers this in a way)