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[chora gordinha @ozzymandiasst]

relacionamento so funciona quando a mulher ama mais e tem dependência emocional mesmo, fora isso, é só sua vez

[WHAM @WhamSteppa]

you niggas really fucked the game up, these bitches really think they deserved to be spoiled for nothing

[ً @artfuIchaos]

If i had the mindset I have now, I wouldn’t have made those mistakes. but if I hadn’t made those mistakes, I wouldn’t have the mindset i have now.

[Avril Amaka @avrilamaka]

Why the fuck is she talking about investing? You're supposed to be looking for a partner, not an investor.

You're a grown adult. build your own life. I want someone to build with, not someone to fund it. You bitches act like retarded children.

[YOM🗣️ @ThaBoyYom]

So why hasn’t the Man that gave birth to you spent where you’re elevated yet ?

He sure does NOT value what he gave birth to.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

Everything you're writing against is the whole point of relationship - doing life together and creating memories. You're busy looking for investment.

You don't know how to look for investors?

[Emmanuel Echeta @PenTitan]

If the leading criteria you're looking for in a man is the ability to take care of you, you're bound to end up with a terrible man 9 times out of 10

[𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑺𝒂𝒍𝒕 𝑶𝒇 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑬𝒂𝒓𝒕𝒉 @Shadaya_Knight]

The easiest person to take for granted is usually the hardest to replace. Why?

Because they made loyalty look normal. Because they made consistency look normal. Because they made effort look normal

So normal that you start believing you can find that anywhere. That's why many people leave good partners NOT because they found better BUT because they assume that can be easily found

The person you get "bored" of is often the person you'll end up looking for in other people

If you have that person in your life, value them.

[Sir Dickson @Wizarab10]

The whole essence of love is to GIVE. The whole point of relationship is to GIVE, not to have entitlement.

It is the love you give that you deserve.

[Ozedikus Nwanne @Ozedikus]

If two people start a company and one contributes 90% of the capital while the other contributes just 10%, when the business starts struggling, who do you think is more likely to walk away first? Exactly, Now apply that same principle to your relationships

[Cerebral Assassin @xysist]

The main challenge in life is women want their responsibilities treated as sacrifices but want men’s sacrifices to be treated as responsibilities.

[Yehgha @yaygha]

"Educate the girl child"

The girl child has been educated and has more opportunities than the boy child

But she does not want to pay rent in the house she lives with her 'partner'

She will disrespect him if she pays but expects him to respect her when he pays

MMS

[F E E Z @Feeztm]

If you ask an average Nigerian woman to describe her dream man, this is what they will describe…… “A RICH IDIOT”.

[Dhee✨🌎 @UncleDhee]

This is the dream!🥹❤️

[Danny Walter 🧸 @AjeboDanny]

Pay evil with evil because people know what they’re doing.

Forgiveness is weakness and if people know you’ll forgive them, they are inclined to do it again.

[Machiavelli Bot @UnmodernmanBot]

Letting her go does not mean you stopped caring. It means you finally respected reality more than your longing, and that is one of the most painful forms of maturity a man can go through.

[Machiavelli Bot @UnmodernmanBot]

Your enemy is rarely the man who openly competes with you. The real danger is the person close enough to study your habits, copy your language, resent your growth, and smile while waiting for a weak moment. Familiarity is useful. It is also where betrayal breeds, slowly.

[Illimitable Man (IM) @SovereignIM]

Men who want blind obedience “because I’m the man” are conceited fools.

Being the leader doesn’t mean you lack accountability, and are beyond being able to detail your reasoning, and show the structure of your insight.

You are always talking about how men are less emotional and more logical, yes? Then when your logic is actually being taxed in a non-abstract way, and you are required to detail your thought process so you can be understood and scrutinised for the rightness of your decision making - why is that so difficult for you?

Why then, suddenly, does your ego become an obstruction? Is this not you being more emotional than logical?

If you are so wonderfully rational as a man, as you like to believe you are, would you not be able to simply share your reasoning? Why, in this context, is being logical and transparent suddenly a bad thing? Is it because to be so wounds your sense of untouchable authority? Is it because you are too arrogant as a man?

To be a good leader is not to be arbitrarily tyrannical, withholding or beyond sharing your thinking.

A good leader, can in fact, demonstrate the basis and motion of the thinking that makes up their discernment, how it informs their conclusions, and thus their judgement.

Yes, being questioned and doubted all the time isn’t nice, men certainly don’t want to deal with endless heckling, doubt and interrogation.

That is the opposite extreme. Arguably, never being trusted to lead without interrogation, is just as bad if not even worse than thinking you do not ever owe an explanation simply because you're in charge.

The happy medium, the golden mean, the threaded needle so to speak then is very simple:

When she is struggling and it's an important matter, you share your thinking with her, do this enough, and then after having built trust, she will just follow you without question in a general sense, because she understands you and feels safe knowing she can leave you to handle it.

This means even if she isn't interrogative, but posits even the most delicate or softly asserted concern, you answer her fully and comprehensively, because she is only seeking reassurance through comprehension, it is not always some grand attack on your ego where she is "trying to hold you to account" - if she is a good woman, she simply wishes to remain on the same page as you. That is all.

Truly, men who don't think they should ever have to explain their leadership decisions make extremely poor husbands, for they are tyrants wearing crowns that don't fit them.

[Mr Sergio @samson_samsen]

You owe it to yourself not to marry a poor woman, a struggling woman, a woman ten layers below your income bracket, an “industrious woman” - whatever that nonsense means - or a financially unreliable woman. You are not guaranteed loyalty, nor a “forever,” with a poor woman, regardless of the sacrifices you make.

I say this for two reasons.

First, poor people cannot, do not, and will not make substantial sacrifices in relationships.

Second, a union with a poor woman overburdens you with the responsibility of manufacturing in her the capacity to be useful, reliable, and functional. You are forced to invest excessively just to make an adult out of a wife for the objective reason of meeting economic demands and ensuring sustenance in the event of instability or calamity. This is too much burden for a man. And doing too much for a woman, or for a relationship with one, is a mutilation of cosmic intelligence and design - you will be punished for it. You will.

However, the deeper point is this: poverty incapacitates people. In this context, it makes them incapable of sacrifice - of investing, gifting, supporting, and contributing meaningfully. Poverty, or the loud asymmetry of financial capacity, excuses women from contribution to the relationship. And it is for this sole reason, that a poor woman will not tangibly contribute to the relationship, that you must not marry one.

Women have a sharp memory of their sacrifices but a dull memory of their privileges. A woman, therefore, cannot be loyal to your sacrifices, because your sacrifices are her privileges. Loyalty to a cause is a function of the memory of the sacrifices made for that cause. A woman will therefore be loyal to the cause that contains her sacrifices, and to the man with whom she made them.

The litmus test for a woman’s loyalty, and consequently the durability of her companionship, is the amount of sacrifice she has made with you.

The point is not that you should not sacrifice for the woman or the marriage. The point is that you must first marry a woman who shares the capability for that relational necessity: sacrifice itself.

Do not marry dependency and call it love. Do not adopt an adult and call it partnership. And do not mistake your endless giving for loyalty earned. A relationship survives not on one person’s sacrifices, but on the mutual memory of sacrifice. I have said enough.