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Masculine initiation, a 3 stage model for all men:
1. Son who is given form and planted by the father. He must learn obedience. Also, humility, alacrity, receptivity to the external world and appropriate authority.
2. Initiation, the crucial stage: An encounter with...
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@JonathanShedler Great read. Thanks for posting. IFS always creeped me out, but that's just personal feeling mostly. Does read a bit like a hit piece, but I don't know enough of the full back story to assess whether the angle taken by the article is justified.
To say this stuff is "researched" is so wildly misleading.
She misses something fundamental here - the fact that not all men are so fundamentally psychologically broken that they need to work on "vulnerability." If you are that broken or are going through a period of great trial (I've been here), have the courage to be honest and get help.
There is also a healthy seeking of support that goes along with the strength of a man, but this idea that all men should be vulnerable is, in my opinion, spiritually and psychologically poisonous.
It attacks the very standard of manhood which, whether you like it or not, is what men deeply desire and strive to become.
Men are generally not strengthened or healed by making the spilling their guts habitual. On the whole, this leaves a man feeling weaker.
You either get dependent whiny men or strong men. You cannot have your cake and eat it too.
Right. When women express themselves this way, they feel stronger, ready to go at life afterwards.
It is fitting for women.
When men are pressured to express emotion in the trendy 'vulnerability' way, they feel weaker, and the habit of doing so will weaken the man's character, and he will be less ready to face what he needs to face as a man.