I’m the ‘girlfriend’ pictured in Choose Rich Nick’s photo.
However I did not approve him posting that I’m his girlfriend. He misled, underpaid, and mistreated me. I will never work with him again.
As a women in BD, you regularly get pitched for casual sex.
This is a real problem.
Here’s my experience and how I’ve coped 🧭
For the first 2 years, I wore my company t-shirt religiously like a military uniform. At a talk, during a pitch, or on the conference floor, you will never see me without it.
It worked to a certain extend. As the message cannot be more clear - hi, I am here to work. HOWEVER - because I am Asian and we look young to the untrained eye, with my tech worker backpack, I was regularly passed over during BD events, or assumed to be someone unimportant at the company (I am the founder CEO). Once I even got ID-d. Another time hotel front desk flagged me when I walked in, trying to get valet parking - they must’ve thought I’m some confused high schooler who wondered in to the Ritz, where the event was held.
It still didn’t block all contact. The most extreme case - I had someone who approached me, appearing to want a job. He went on to message me every day on TG and called every other, taking up 40-50 hours of my total time. Maybe even more. At first, I had thought this was just a high profile high maintenance engineer who really enjoyed sharing his life when recruiting - dog, plant, first tattoo, childhood best friend, mom dad ex girlfriend. And I was willing to invest to mentor and build a connection. It wasn’t until I saw his messaging thread with another girl who’s romantically involved with him a year later, where he sent the exact content, did it hit me that he was, in fact, trying to flirt with me. It was a huge waste of my time.
After that, I started to enter more rooms with senior executives - Sony, Sega, Robinhood, etc. I realized that while very tech coded, looking like a high schooler was making me stand out in a strange way. We autists have a social sense too - just slow and very dull, but it’s there.
I switched strategy. From there on, I always made sure any event I attended, I had a male companion with me. It’s either my own BD team @nostratbeststra and @Web3LooterBowen, or someone I’d borrow from a trusted team, such as BD leads from Soneium or Sei. Fortunately or unfortunately - crypto events can be very vibe-y. We once attended a beachside swim and hang with the Ethereum foundation. It was one of the best events at ETH CC hosted by @jchaskin. It was also prime grounds for guys looking at girls in bikinis and asking for ig accounts. Having a trusted contact in these cases usually helps.
(@TatsuatTokyo from Soneium as seen in the photo!)
Usually, after these bad experiences, I have a mini breakdown, where I feel a pang of fear and anxiety, and end up acting out in one way or another. Sometimes it’s an angry aggressive pitch to a trusted friend (“invest and wire RIGHT NOW” or “I need your analyst, DONT FUCKING CARE”), other times it’s finding a gay person in the room and clinging on to them tightly. In any case - it’s not fun.
Alas, this is my experience. I don’t have a solution, but at least, I’ll talk about my problems.
Happy December!
the tweet came and you’re still enjoying the involuntary minimalist lifestyle
amidst all the shit posting do remember there are lives at stake here
people are losing their livelihoods and jumping off the ledge
ALL AT THE EXPENSE OF CEX AND THEIR B BOOK
there is a light at the end of the tunnel though
make the rotation from CEX to DEX
this is a battle of good vs evil
do not be on the wrong side
REMEMBER 1011
hyperliquid.