You are far more dangerous to your startup than competitors are. A hundred times more startups die from poor execution by their founders than are killed by competitors.
At this age, you have to think long term. Focus on your income & goals. Save money. We can no longer afford to waste time. Focus on things that matter in the long run, stability. Loyalty. Peace of mind.
A startup idea that only works if there are already a significant number of people using it is not a valid startup idea. There has to be some subset of users who need what you're making so desperately that they'll use it even if no one else is.
Underrated life advice: Have more hobbies and fewer opinions. Learn an instrument. Plant a garden. Build something with your hands. Cook. Paint. Run. The happiest people I know spend less time debating life and more time actually living it.
It's a fallacy to think you should drop out of college because you have an idea that has to be implemented right now, or it will be too late. If you stay in school you'll have other and better ideas.
there is no better time in tech than now to be a jack of all trades, master of a few.
just make sure to keep adding to the few year over year, such that the cumulative breadth of expertise you collect becomes an increasingly rare combo. remember, if you're top 10% in 3 different areas, that already makes you top 0.1%. keep switching it up until you get to "your best", and then switch it up again (great for a particular flavor of people who don't enjoy resting on laurels, maybe not so great for others).
question all institutional value and pedigrees, all traditional career paths or corporate ladders: the college industrial complex is getting shaken up, alongside a disappearing managerial class, so if you're pursuing either make sure you are fully internally aligned with why. social/political capital in a particular institution can feel incredible, but if you're spending all your energy on complex political people games, you're not a technologist anymore, you're an unelected politician. if you're ok with that, then all's well.
critical thinking is more important than ever: take nothing at face-value, question everything and everyone. the equivalent of ai slop can be found in humans operating under misaligned incentives and interests. the sooner you're clued into disambiguating the talkers/larpers from the doers, the better off you'll be figuring out where and who to invest your time in.
the anxiety of job displacement is very real, since a surprising amount of white collar work/prestige is built on a performative house of cards, significantly lacking in correlation with technical breadth, depth, and skill. as long as you keep learning, keep building, keep producing receipts, you will be fine.
if all that sounds ok to you, welcome to the world of technology! it's truly one of the few places you can experience child-like wonder every few years, and be constantly humbled & excited by new adventures, as scary as they may seem at first.
don't give up, drink your water, get your sunlight, and take breaks as needed. tech careers are notoriously nonlinear, so you might as well embrace it and enjoy the ride!
That friend of yours that’s doing great in life, got his racks on check, and is doing good for himself ? That should be your ally, not your ops. Learn from him and exchange ideas, try to replicate and ask for his guidance, there’s no shame in that
To be fair, the goal of FIRE isn't to opt out of society. It's to gain your freedom so you can participate in society exactly as you choose.
Take your kids to school. Hit the gym. Work on your own SMB. Enjoy a relaxing lunch with your spouse. Volunteer. Mentor. Pick your kids up from school.
These people aren't doing it all to live in caves and disappear. They just don't want to be forced to have shitty bosses, gnarly hours, and sacrifice time with loved ones for the almighty dollar.
That being said, the guy above is extreme. He's going to end up with half that savings in short order when she divorces him.
according to stoicism, a life wasted by fear, inaction, and doubt is the worst thing you can do. your lack of urgency and imagination is killing your potential.