my classmate in med school studies for seven hours every evening and exercises daily. I used to ask him how did he manage it & he said, "I'm very disciplined". I met his wife yesterday, she told me how she cooked him three fresh meals daily, mowed their lawn, ran all errands, cleaned the house weekly, and handled all social plans. It made me wonder how many times "discipline" means a woman doing all of the other essential work that keeps a life going
My new year resolution is the opposite of cutting people off. Instead, I want to make a million friends, experience life and make genuine connections. I want my phone to constantly ring because friends want to hangout with me or talk to me.
Stop self-rejecting. Don’t think you can’t get it, can’t do it, without even trying. That voice of self doubt? You can only silence it by actually taking action to prove it wrong. So next year, even as you wonder “What if I fail? What if I don’t get in?” Do it anywayyyyy! Do not be the person getting in your own way.
i need to walk again. i need to take photos again. i need to read again. i need to journal again. i need to watch movies again. but most importantly i need to stop losing myself.
Work on your EQ. Two underrated skills that will bring you far in life;
1. Learn to give criticism without offending and to take criticism without reacting on impulse. Pause your reaction when you feel triggered, and think about how this criticism can help you grow instead.
how to have fun as an adult:
> say yes to spontaneous plans even when you're tired - some of the best nights are unplanned
> cap venting to 20% of total hang time; any longer and it's time to move on to more fun topics!!
> stop opting for boring hangs. switch things up with your friends. try something new!!
> stop making everything productive - not every hobby needs to "go somewhere" ok??
> be 5% more silly in your life. dance in your room, sing badly in the car, crack a bad joke. let's grow the silly muscle
> hang out with people who make you laugh, not just people who "make sense"
> take a random class just for fun - pottery, dance, improv, cooking
> stop optimizing everything. embrace doing things badly just because they're enjoyable
we forgot that life is supposed to be FUN ya'll
lets go PLAY!!!
Major cheat code for life: Be patient with yourself when you’re trying to become someone you’ve never been. You’ll feel lost, unsure, and tempted to quit. Don't. Change feels chaotic because your old self is fighting for survival. Expect it to be a battle. But also expect to win.
there's a woman at this gym who's been doing the exact same workout for the past 3 months.
same machines, same order, same time.
someone new tried to give her advice.
she smiled and said, "I'm not trying to improve. i'm trying to maintain. this body carried me through divorce and cancer. we have an agreement now."
fitness culture doesn't know what to do with contentment.
i saw a TikTok about a girl saying how she doesn't stay mad for long because either she's going to figure it out, or there's nothing that can be done about it. and as simple as that sounds is as simple as it is really
Let us #PrayTogether that the leaders of nations may be free from the temptation to use wealth against humanity, turning it into weapons that destroy peoples and monopolies that demean workers. Whoever serves God becomes free from wealth, but whoever serves wealth remains its slave! Whoever seeks justice transforms wealth into the common good; whoever seeks domination transforms the common good into the prey of their own greed.
what helped me during times when i was overthinking is asking myself this question:
“when has it ever not work out for me?”
it grounds me back to the reality how everything always worked out for me. even the things that seemed like it didn’t at first, they led me to better places all the time.