@Mag_nanimo@xoSashaDarling Again, I don’t see how my threshold is in by way more arbitrary than the age of consent we have currently. Sometimes we have to accept arbitrary limits when they are beneficial on the whole
@Mag_nanimo@xoSashaDarling And the definition of “adult” itself is arbitrary. The point of the age of consent is finding the right balance between giving young people agency and hitting as many developmental marks as possible. I think 18 does a good job of that, and imo my threshold does as well
@Mag_nanimo@xoSashaDarling Sure, and the point of what I’m saying isn’t to limit what young people can do, but more to critique what older people do that I find kinda creepy
@IBMPower9CPU And I want to be clear that I don’t think this should be emplaced as law, just that it’s my own personal framework around what I find kinda creepy or not
@IBMPower9CPU That’s what I’ve seen but it could be made up. All attempts to give a numbered age of consent are arbitrary, the goal is to include as many developmental benchmarks as you can without completely excluding young adults, and I think my threshold is pretty good at that
@codybakerbro @xoSashaDarling It’s not about how mature the younger person is per se, it’s more that I find people in their 30s trying to date people in their early 20s kinda whack
@gamerboiprince@xoSashaDarling I mean that’s fair, like I said I don’t think this should be a law, it’s just about what I would see and think “oh, this is relationship is weird and creepy”
@gamerboiprince@xoSashaDarling Again, 25 is arbitrary, but less so than 18. I don’t think anyone in their right mind is arguing to lower the AoC below 18 despite it being arbitrary, because it works very well in most cases. And I think my threshold works well too. Not saying it should be law, just how I feel
@gamerboiprince@xoSashaDarling I mean it’s far more of a concrete developmental stage than 18, which is the agreed upon age of consent for most people. At the end of the day, assigning a specific number is always gonna be an arbitrary decision, but imo it’s still useful to do so
@myssmebby@xoSashaDarling Sure, it doesn’t matter. I was just sharing what I personally feel about the topic, which is kinda what this site is designed for. If a 30 year old dates a 20 year old I’m gonna find it weird and gross, and I don’t think that me feeling that way is a problem
@vanessainanity @xoSashaDarling I mean there are also 15 year olds who are parents, it doesn’t automatically make you super mature. I agree that it’s more vague but I think that as a rough guideline my threshold is pretty good