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theoritically thriving

[Rama @_seirama]

Because he taught me to wander.

[Arci @skwnguer]

Jatuh cintalah dengan orang yang membawa kamu jauh lebih baik. Kalaupun tidak berjodoh, setidaknya dia berhasil memberi dampak positif di hidupmu.

Pilih dia yang bikin kita malu kalau malas-malasan, ibadah bolong, atau gak berkembang. Energi positif itu menular loh.

[Sahil Bloom @SahilBloom]

Everyone needs to hear this…

[primordial intelligence @primal_brainer]

btw in your 20's and 30’s you’ll start rediscovering the niche interests and hobbies you had as a kid. it’s very important you revisit them. your younger self was actually on to something.

[Agatha @earthmixnation]

Gue inget kata dosen gue pas di kelas psikopatologi. Kurang lebih intinya:

Istirahat, leisure activities, ngejalanin hobby non profit, itu bagian dari produktifitas. Karena kita kasih ruang buat badan dan pikiran berhenti sejenak untuk ngimbangin semua kegiatan yg melelahkan

[Electra @Electrarythm]

Spend around 10–30 minutes a day visualizing a version of yourself that you are deliberately trying to build. Do it when your mind is already calm, especially in the evening or just before sleep, because the mind accepts imagery more easily when it is not being pulled in different directions.

The basic idea is simple. The brain treats repeated internal experience as something important. When a certain kind of situation is lived again and again in imagination, with enough detail and emotional weight, it starts to lose its “imagined” quality and becomes something your mind recognizes as familiar territory.

And what becomes familiar stops feeling impossible.

Old patterns weaken in this process not because you fight them directly, but because you stop feeding them the same mental rehearsal. At the same time, new patterns begin to stabilize because they are being repeatedly experienced internally before they ever exist externally.

Start by settling your body. Slow breathing. Less tension in the face, shoulders, stomach. You are not trying to force anything, you are just lowering internal noise.

Then choose one specific scene. Not an abstract goal. A moment. Something you can step into mentally.

If it is health, do not think “I want to be healthy,” instead see yourself moving through a normal day with physical ease, walking without effort, breathing clearly, feeling your body light and responsive.

If it is confidence or success, see yourself in a real situation where you would normally hesitate, but now you speak without that hesitation, you are steady, direct, and things unfold without internal resistance.

If it is discipline, see yourself already inside the routine, doing the work without negotiation, as if it is simply what you do.

Always stay in first person. Through your own eyes.

What is directly in front of you. What is under your feet. The texture of the environment. The light in the space. The small details your attention would normally skip.

Then sound. The way voices actually enter the space. The rhythm of your breathing. Any background noise that belongs to that environment.

Then physical sensation. The weight of your body. Temperature on the skin. The sense of movement. The way you occupy space when you are not resisting yourself.

Emotionally, you are not trying to force excitement. You are allowing a quieter set of states to appear. Relief that things are simple. A sense of “this is already how I operate.” A quiet internal stability that does not need justification.

You are not building a fantasy. You are rehearsing familiarity.

At the end, stop adding detail and just remain in the general felt sense of it for a short moment, as if your mind has already accepted it as normal.

Let that feeling continue lightly as you move into the rest of your day.

Repeat it often enough that the scene stops feeling like something you are trying to reach, and starts feeling like something your mind already knows how to do.

[sarah ayu @sibiwl]

Sesuatu yg bukan untukmu akan selalu menemukan cara untuk pergi, mau kamu jaga sekuat apapun. Bisa lewat sikap yg berubah, jarak yang memanjang, atau rasa yang perlahan hilang tanpa penjelasan.

you'll keep asking why? sampai akhirnya kamu sadar pertanyaan itu bukan buat dicari jawabannya, tapi buat dimengerti maknanya. karena takdir gak pernah salah arah, yg sering keliru itu kita, terlalu lama bertahan di jalan yg sebenarnya bukan tujuan kita.

[Tommy Hadiawan @tommy_hdwn]

Dating a 30+ man is actually annoying.

Lo bilang, "udah, tinggalin gue aja."

Dalam kepala lo:
"Coba bujuk dikit kek, kejar dikit kek, kasih effort dikit kek."

Dalam kepala dia:
"Oke. Noted. Gue ada kerjaan, tagihan, dan asam lambung yang harus diurus."

Terus dia beneran pergi.

Bukan karena dia nggak peduli. Justru karena di umur segitu banyak cowo udah capek main tebak-tebakan.

Kalau bilang pergi ya pergi. Kalau mau ngomong sesuatu ya ngomong.

Mereka udah melewati fase jadi cenayang hubungan.

Dulu mungkin dia bakal ngejar.

Sekarang?
"Oke, hati-hati di jalan ya."

Lalu menghilang sambil buka Excel, cek saldo, atau tidur jam 9 malam demi kesehatan.

Kadang yang berubah bukan rasa sukanya, tapi toleransinya terhadap drama yang udah turun drastis.

Umur 30+ bikin seseorang sadar bahwa komunikasi itu lebih murah daripada overthinking.

Jadi kalau bilang "tinggalin gue", pastikan itu bukan ujian.

Karena yang udah dewasa biasanya nggak lagi ikut tes yang nggak pernah dia daftar.

Pertanyaan serius:
Kalian tim yang kalau dibilang "pergi" tetap ngejar, atau tim yang langsung jawab "siap, terima kasih atas informasinya" lalu menghilang dari peredaran? 😆

[Latifa @latifaskaa]

Aku gak mau menggeneralisir sih.
Orang lanjut S2 itu punya alasan pribadi masing².

1. Mau jadi dosen
2. Mau nambah ilmu
3. Mau naikin jenjang karir
4. Alasan yg laen

Tp orang lain bs aja beropini klo lanjut s2 terkesan nunda kerja/ga mau kerja. Tiap orang punya opini sendiri.

[AilaunchX @Ai_Tech_tool]

Instead of watching an hour of Netflix, watch this 2 hour hour Stanford lecture will teach you more about how LLMs like ChatGPT and Claude are built than most people working at top AI companies learn in their entire careers.

[BIG HYCE @thehyce]

a guy will go silent once he realizes talking won’t change anything.

[sarah ayu @sibiwl]

bagian terpilu dari anak yang selalu memeluk dan memendam segala lukanya sendiri adalah di saat ia sesekali ingin menunjukan lelahnya, tapi beberapa orang sibuk mengatakan “jgn banyak mengeluh, coba lebih bisa bersyukur atas hidupmu” 🙂

[邸珥菲 @SAIBdelvi]

Ga. Selama emosinya ga pernah dialirkan keluar, sampai mati pun ga akan sembuh.

We're the one who needs to fight to heal.
Do not rely on time.
Time does nothing if we do nothing.

[swishysharky.bsky.social @swishysharky]

Basically:

Merugilah orang-orang yang self-worthnya hanya terletak pada bagaimana efisiennya mereka bekerja, without knowing that we, as a human, have dignity that’s just there for being human.

[salsa @ohbitterwine]

agree. punya pasangan yang bisa ngobrol sama kita berjam-jam, talking about anything. laughing until our stomach hurt. even still comfortable enjoying each other's silence is a privilege. tolak ukur paten jg buat jadi pasangan. ngga butuh fancy date melulu, quality time it is.

[AilaunchX @Ai_Tech_tool]

🚨 Anthropic just showed a 27-minute workshop on how to actually do prompts for Claude.

Taught by the people who built it.

Free. No registration. No paywall.

I've seen $300 courses that don't cover what they teach in the first 8 minutes.

Watch it and bookmark it now.

[🧀 @lagibelajarMTK]

padahal finding someone can talk to you for hours without getting bored after a long day ITU HAL YANG TIDAK SEMUA ORANG BISA DAPATKAN. callan berjam jam cerita hal hal aneh, sharing random thoughts, dan ketawa bareng THAT'S SOOO FUN😔😔😔 i love spending time with my partner

[Mas Pur @rasjawa]

Alternatif pekerjaan tambahan, kalau gaji kalian mepet UMR, teman2. Silakan simak bermacam2 "pekerjaan alternatif" untuk cari2 tambahan pemasukan dari om Ridho ini.

Insight yang sangat bagus 👍👍

[sarah ayu @sibiwl]

kita ga bisa terus terusan menyelamatkan hubungan yang kita sendiri sekarat didalamnya. selesai saja. selesai atau tidak selesai pun sama sama sakit tapi kalau diselesaikan. itu sakit yang terakhir.

[gomi @parveen__tyagi]

you life will change the moment you stop abandoning yourself every time things get hard. most people don’t fail because they aren’t talented enough, smart enough or lucky enough. they fail because somewhere along the way they stopped believing they were capable of becoming the person they dreamed about. let me remind you, “every beautiful thing waiting for you requires a version of you that refuses to quit.”

you choose this path for a reason don’t forget that. you knew it wasn’t going to be easy, you knew people were goona say things about you, you knew the most of the world is too scared to pursue the path that you’re now pursuing but you choose to keep walking anyway. so embrace it, hold the vision a little longer my friend. one day you’ll look back and realize the hardest seasons of your life were creating the strongest version of you.

[Butet✨️🥀 @gadismengantuk]

Ngedate itu bukan soal lokasi.

Gue bisa ke kafe sendirian.
Ke bioskop sendirian.
Ke toko buku sendirian.

Yang nggak bisa gue lakukan sendirian adalah mengakses isi kepala orang lain.

Jadi kalau mau ngajak gue ngedate, jangan jual tempatnya.
Jual pemikirannya.