@ihespgl@feran_x the funniest part is both parties are suffering in silence. the one giving is exhausted and lowkey resentful. the one receiving knows something is off but can't say anything cause who are they to complain. the relationship just starts dying quietly and everyone is acting normal.
The "Gifted Kid" to "Anxious Adult" pipeline is realizing you never actually learned how to study – you just learned how to be naturally good at things.
Now, as an adult, if I can't master a new skill perfectly in the first 5 minutes, my brain doesn't say, "You need practice."
It screams: "You are a fraud, your intelligence was a lie, and we must quit immediately before anyone notices."
Permit me to take this a bit far.
Many Nigerians are full of anyhowness.
It is in how someone builds a house and stops halfway, no plaster, no paint, no finishing touch, yet proudly moves in. Little efforts matter, but we ignore them.
It is in how your generator starter rope cuts, and instead of fixing it properly, you just wind the rope around by hand every day like it is normal. We get too comfortable with inconvenience.
It is in how the government builds one side of the road and abandons the other to completely deteriorate. By the time they return to fix the neglected side, the first one is already damaged again. It is a never-ending cycle of poor maintenance.
It is in how people throw dirt out of their car windows, then complain about blocked drainages when it floods.
It is in how someone installs a door but never fixes the handle properly. Or paints a wall but skips the corners because “it is not that serious.”
This anyhowness shows in our work, our mindset, and even our leadership. We rush to start things but rarely finish them well. We do not value details, yet we want excellence.
If we want a better country, we must start by changing that spirit of “it is okay like that.” Progress begins when we decide that doing it well is just as important as getting it done.
i HIGHLY recommend having a clingy and lovey dovey partner. Life is too short to be with people who act like it's painful to show that you love someone.
1. i don’t know how to express my feelings
2. i don’t like asking for help
3. i don’t know how to check up on people
4. i’m an overthinker
5. i’m quick to say nvm or leave it
6. i like being alone
7. i can’t express affection too much
8. i’m observant