12 weeks out from first show
Very happy with the rate of progress
Likely another 10kg to drop before filling back out
The work is working
#wehackhealth
Read the quoted tweet
No clear narrative here, just what Ben said made me want to highlight some of the work I’ve had to do on myself, outside of looking the part
I regularly ask myself “would I be doing this thing, if no one else observed it”
Getting in shape won’t make you any happier, if you’re doing it for external validation and “likes”
Same for doing novel research. It wont bring fulfilment if you’re just focused on presenting at a big con for the applause
Learn to understand you’re own value system. Work to detach it from your sum of achievements, accolades, status and external validation
Learn to wire it for more internal views. Do you like you? Do you respect you? Are you living a life authentic to yourself? Would you buy yourself a drink?
…Still go get hench as hell tho, just for the right reasons
These may look like the perfect before and after photos…
But they hide more than they show.
The fitness industry is built on 'before and after' photos and I think they are bullshit..
Here's why…..
A coach's job goes beyond what two photos of someone standing in their pants can say.
Don't get me wrong, I respect the work.
I love nothing more than seeing people take control of their health.
I fully understand the work that goes into a true physical transformation. And yes the two photos show that - but truthfully, it can’t even begin to tell the full story.
I’ll speak from lived experience.
2014 Ben, that skinny guy on the left - the one with the sunken eye sockets. I remember him well. He spent 5 out of 7 nights at the bar, drinking himself into oblivion - using alcohol, drugs and chasing girls as an escape from an unhappy self.
At that point I was 26, I felt like I hadn’t gotten my adult body yet, I was skinny, not only did I not fit my clothes properly, but I felt like I didn’t really fit in anywhere.
I was under confident and insecure.
I over compensated with a fake confidence fuelled by some level of substance abuse.
I was unhappy - at the time I was living in my grandparents spare room.
I was working in a minimum wage job that I really didn't like.
I felt like the days were passing by and I was pissing the nights up against the wall.
I was out of control and I was going nowhere....fast.
The guy on the right, I remember him too - 2018 Ben.
Finally fitted into a large t-shirt with a much better beard and a - too many shades too dark spray tan.
I was in the best shape of my life.
But here is the reality of it... I went from one escape to the other..I swapped drinking every day to training every day…
And before you jump on that statement - yes, training every day is objectively a better direction than drinking every day. But that doesn’t automatically mean the root issue was fixed.
I had just found a more socially accepted way to run from myself.
My body changed faster than my identity did.
Was training every day a much better use of my time than drinking every day?
100%.
Was I still using it as an escape for an unhappy and insecure version of myself?
Fuck yes I was.
But the worst part.…I was putting all of my self worth in how I looked physically.
I had a six pack and I had attention that I was never getting before…
Was I healthier - yes
Was I happier - no
I remember finishing that photoshoot, looking at the images and thinking I should feel proud, fulfilled, confident...something.
Instead, I just felt empty…again.
You see, the same issues were still underlying.
I was 'fixing' what I thought the problem was - externally, when in actual fact it was the internal that was all fucked up.
The alcohol wasn't the problem, I was.
The nights out or the drugs weren't the problem. I was.
The fact that I didn't fit my t-shirts wasn't the problem either, I was.
On the surface level - it shows a skinny guy vs a bigger guy.
What do I see?
The same guy with the same issues, just a different outlet.
I was still outsourcing my self worth. The drug had just changed.
They say a photo is worth 1000 words, but don't misread them.
They do not show the struggles from before, during or after.
An attachment to a physique or a certain look. I am sure that this is not the story that you were expecting, you wanted the guy in the second photo to be full of confidence, happy and the best version of himself.
But here is the other problem with before and after photos - it never shows the 'after after'.
Generally when I think of a transformation picture the after represents a point in time, there was a lot that went into this and a lot of it, while maybe at the time was fine - is not sustainable.
People see the six pack. They don’t see the obsession, the pressure, the attachment, the fear of losing it or the fact your entire identity can become dependent on staying that guy.
For me - a lot of self realisation came after this shoot - this was my second shoot and I was just as unfulfilled as I was the first time, so I knew there was something else going on.
I can look back at these now and smile - I am not either of these people.
I am so much better.
Not because of how I look physically, but because I actually spent time working on myself, internally.
How I think
How I feel
What I value
How I react
The relationships with the people around me and most importantly, the relationship I have with myself.
I stopped reaching for an outlet every time I felt uncomfortable and started sitting with the discomfort instead. I stopped measuring my worth by what I saw in the mirror or the attention it pulled. I did the work on the inside, you know - the stuff no photo will ever capture.
I have spent time working on myself. My mind, not just my body.
I train now because I respect myself, not because I hate myself.
I no longer need a six pack to feel worthy.
Please remember that there is much more going on here, make sure you are working on your mindset as well as how you look and feel physically.
Before you chase the 'after,' get honest about what you're actually trying to escape.
Because if you don't…
You can build the dream body and still take the same broken identity.
Sounds like every conversation I have in the sauna
“ChatGPT says my supps/peptide stack should be XYZ… what do you think?”
I think you should drink some water. Seriously. Go drink some water. With pink salt.
Folks will be drinking a pint of apple cider vinegar before they’d think of drinking a pint of water
**I was once one of those folks
Operation “Build back and hammies” has been a success
Glutes and lats need to be brought up more but have progressed
17 weeks til show day
#wehackhealth
@rad9800 Appreciate you saying that. And respect, that is no easy thing to do, especially when prescribed!
Being able to sit with the distress and still take something useful from it, yeah that’s grit 🫡 what’s been the experience so far?