If they are suturing your own cervix without anaesthesia, will u be cooperative, Rhoda?
It’s like the Devil is possessing you people, to be posting all these confessions on X.
I am still saying it, and this is coming from someone who finds physics fascinating: medicine is way beyond anything engineering will ever accomplish.
An aircraft is a mighty feat. We designed it. A space rocket? We designed it. Electromagnetic technology, bridges, computers, all of these are incredible feats, but ultimately things we designed and built from the ground up.
Now think about medicine. Humans are opening up a body they did not design, navigating structures they did not create, knowing what to cut, what not to touch, what connects to what, where something needs to go and what carries it there and then putting the whole thing back together.
That is, and will probably forever remain, mightier to me than anything we have ever achieved as engineers.
I’ve done all this in Nigeria.
Donated Blood sometimes because my patient couldn’t afford it.
Stuck my neck out for an OSUSTECH student attacked by cultists, suturing him in complete darkness because they could come back if they knew we were saving him.
Sprinting across the hospital to borrow an oxygen cylinder from another ward.
All while our salaries were being owed.
Non-functioning incubator? We built one with a paper box.
Infectious ward? We bought our own PPE.
Faulty Generator on Night shifts ? Serviced it and continue working.
WE got shit done.
If you just passed your Primaries, here's some advice.
First, congratulations. What you've done is no mean feat. It's a defining moment in your career and a real step toward becoming a specialist. So take a bow.
Now, the practical part.
1. You are in demand.
Plenty of departments are looking for residents. You probably have more options than you think.
Do some digging. Is the department accredited for your specialty? What's the training actually like? How many consultants, and what's the case load? How much hands-on work do residents really get?
And don't forget the town or city itself. Cost of living, accommodation, security, life outside the hospital. You could be there 5–7 years. Ask your friends, Choose wisely.
2. On studying.
You're a sum of your knowledge, and residency is where a lot of that knowledge gets built and tested. Start building your study habits now, aim for daily.
Doesn't have to be five hours but learning one page, one review, one chapter or one guideline everyday, is enough. Note that Tiktok vidoes dont count please
Don't save reading for when exams are close. What you learn daily compounds over the years.
3. Take ownership of your training.
There's structure to residency, but systemic issues can water down the supervision you actually get. You're in adult education, sometimes youll have to teach yourself.
Haven't done a procedure? Find the opportunity.
Don't understand a topic? Study it.
Something you should know but don't? Find someone who knows it.
Don't wait for the programme to organise your growth for you, you will have to do some heavy lifting.
4. Find good seniors.
You don't have to figure it all out alone. Watch the people who are good at what they do. Ask questions. Learn from their mistakes.
Teaching is mostly a thankless task, so appreciate the ones who take the time. And when it's your turn, do the same for whoever's coming behind you.
5. Build good habits early.
Documentation. Case presentation. Communication. Time management. Following up patients. Reading around your cases. Being reliable. Showing up early.
These feel small now. They're not. Over time, they're what makes you the doctor you become.
6. Don't give residency your whole life.
It's demanding, yes. But hold onto your relationships, your friendships, your hobbies. You're more than a training programme.
Take your leave. Rest when you can. See your family. Don't wait until you're a consultant to start living.
7. Learn how the programme actually works.
Rotations, logbooks, presentations, research requirements, exam structure, progression; know it cold.
Don't find out your requirements when you are due for exams
Nobody should be more invested in your progression than you are.
8. Start thinking about research now, not later.
Learn to spot a good question. Document interesting cases. Write case reports. Present at conferences. Read papers. Pick up basic statistics.
Don't wait until you're staring down your dissertation to figure out how research works. Future you will thank present you.
9. Enjoy it.
There will be brutal calls, difficult patients, hard exams, bad days. There will also be some of the best learning of your career. Take the work seriously, but don't forget to actually enjoy the process.
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Congratulations again to everyone who passed. You've earned this one, and i am rooting for you 🎉
This is the difference between a son and a daughter.
A daughter would most likely have recognised her mum's struggles and tried her possible best to NEVER repeat it.
A son would think the struggles made his mother a good and strong woman and so they SHOULD be repeated.
This is not the point of the tweet. The point is about people trying to milk it without good cause just because it is “HMO”.
When I was in private practice, most of what I was seeing on weekends and late hours had no business coming in at that time or coming at all.
There are less staff during this period and it frankly unhelpful when you now have critical patients and emergencies but you are burnt out from seeing people coming for “general body test” and “It has been a while our family treated malaria”.
@ah_bee_girl@_deoluwaa Abigail, a patient either has symptoms or is seeking health advice. But there is a third category: they have no symptoms and are not seeking health advice. They just want to collect drugs because "it is their money."
These hot takes about this deceased TikToker trending in Arewa discussion circles would make you think she shared outrageously immodest content to warrant all these cautionary tales. If that is all it takes to trigger such unfavourable verdicts, I wonder how the critics function in one of the most morally troubled societies in modern civilization, one where our own members partake in terrorism, banditry, drug abuse, and the everyday cruelties that threaten our existence and moral clarity.
This period was actually my first encounter with her images and videos, and it made me check out her page. All I saw was a young woman basking in her good looks. The only thing that piqued my curiosity was her identifying as Nupe in one video. She did what most girls her age do in our time: dress well and engage with their peers online. She was not even indecent in the sense being exaggerated by the judging hypocrites in any video.
Islam teaches us to be charitable to the dead, so perhaps the most decent response is to pray for her, leave whatever shortcomings you perceive to her Maker, and channel that moral energy into improving yourself. Because measured against the actual moral crises of our society, she comes out, to the embarrassment of her critics, looking like a model person.
Since the past 24 hours that I made the tweet on child parenting solution, my DM has been buzzing. I checked them, and one thing was quite common to all: Parents who are not happy about their kid’s performance in school, and they have approached it the wrong way.
If you fall in this category, this post is for you.
Many of us use brutal force because expectations are too high, and the anger is just too much. The scholar Ibn al-Jawzi explained in his book Sayd al-Khatir that intellect is a Rizq (provision) from God, just like money or health.
He said some people are born with a wide vessel and others with a narrow one. If you try to force the water of a whole sea into a small cup, you will only spill the water and ruin the cup. This is what many of us are doing. We are trying to force a "doctor's brain" into a child whose cup was designed for something else.
By that, it causes a soul-crushing resentment in the child. Imam Al-Ghazali described this beautifully in Ihya’ Ulum al-Din. He warned parents about a state called “Al-Malal”, where a child builds resentment because they are pushed beyond their limit. Everyone wants the best for their child. No doubt. However, if you keep yelling at them for things they cannot grasp yet, you make them hate the very sight of a book. You are closing the door to their heart while trying to kick open the door to their mind.
Then what is the solution? It is simple.
Going forward, every parent should make efforts to start looking for the Fath (the opening) in their kids. What does this mean? This is the lane the Almighty has prepared for them. In our history, if a child is slow with grammar or math, the scholars don’t call them a failure. They move them to a trade, a craft or a service.
How then do you identify this Fath (Opening) in your child? Please pay close attention to me…
(1) The first phase is Observation. Ibn al-Qayyim mentioned a concept called Istid’ad (natural readiness) in his book titled: Tuhfat al-Mawdud. This means you want to watch/observe/look at the child when they think nobody is looking. This is your first tool. For the next two weeks, stop talking about school. Do not worry yourself about how they perform on their homework.
Instead, keep a "Strength Log." Every evening, write down one thing they did well that had nothing to do with a classroom. Did they fix a broken toy? Did they calm down a crying sibling? Did they organise their shoes? You are looking for their Istid’ad (natural readiness). If they are "book-slow" but "people-smart" or "hand-smart," that is where the key has been placed.
(2) Introduce “Project or Craft” early on. Ibn Khaldun, in his Muqaddimah, argued that projects/crafts are high forms of intelligence that build civilizations. He argued that some minds are designed to understand the physical world better than the abstract one.
Give them a "Project Day." Buy a basic tool kit, a sewing machine, or a coding starter kit. Give them a broken radio or a piece of furniture to fix. Delegate. Give them a real-world task that has a visible result. When a child who fails at math sees that they can build a table or bake a perfect loaf of bread, their internal shame starts to heal. They realize they are not stupid; they were just in the wrong room.
(3) Kill the Comparison Virus. Imam Al-Zarnuji, in his classic work Ta’lim al-Muta’allim, explained that a student should only study what fits their nature. He said that forcing a student into a field they have no taste for is a waste of their life and the teacher's time. When you compare your child to others, you are catching a virus that blinds you to their path. Always filter.
When family members start bragging about their kids' grades, you must be the shield. Tell them, "My child is mastering the art of (so so and so)." You are teaching your child that success is not a single ladder. There are many ladders to it. And if you do not value their ladder, they will stop climbing.
(4) Prioritize Character Building. Put more efforts to praise your kids for their good character. Always tell them you love them when they behave well or show good character. Character recognition helps the child build a good self-image, which translates into self-confidence and barrier-breaking for the child. Prioritise this.
(5) Don’t underestimate the power of your words. Always pray to God to grant them their opening. The scholars taught that the "opening" is a gift from Al-Fattah (The Opener). Supplicate.
In your Sujud or in your prayers, stop asking for them to be a doctor/engineer, and what have you. Ask for the door that was made for them to be opened. Ask Him to show you the Fath so you can stop pushing them against a closed wall.
Always remember, a parent who finds the "Fath (The Opening)" for their child has given them a gift better than a degree. You have given them a purpose. Start that journey NOW. It’s never too late…
Thank you for your attention.
Allah knows best.
Hello Lola, I am a Muslim, and our spiritual tradition has a very deep approach to raising children. I want to share some tips from our scholars that will be beneficial to you regardless of your faith.
First of all, our theology teaches the concept of Fitrah. This means that every child is born with a pure heart. At six years old, she is not a criminal mastermind. She does not have a wicked soul.
If she doesn’t have all these, then what is happening? The truth is that she is just lacking impulse control and testing boundaries. By this, if you look at her as a manipulator, you will fight her. However, if you look at her as a pure soul making mistakes, you will be able to guide her.
Secondly, for every problem anyone faces today, it has been solved in history. The only problem is how to locate them.
A classical scholar named Al-Ghazali wrote about child psychology over 900 years ago in his famous book “Ihya Ulum al-Din.” In his section on disciplining children, he gave a practical rule I want you to adopt going forward.
He advised that parents should never push a child into a corner where they are forced to lie. When you ask a question you already know the answer to, her survival instinct kicks in. She cries and she lies to defend herself because she is scared of you. Stop interrogating her. Just look at her and state the fact. Say, I know you took this, and we are going to return it right now.
Again, another scholar and sociologist Ibn Khaldun addressed this exact behavior in his masterpiece titled: “Al-Muqaddimah.” He warned that when a child is raised with harsh punishment, they learn deceit, trickery, and lying to protect themselves. This is why she is covering her tracks and crying to manipulate you. The fear of a harsh reaction is making her a better liar.
Lola, do not attach a label to her. Do not ever call her a thief. If you attack her identity instead of her action, she will internalize it and grow into that dark label. Tell her the action is wrong but protect her dignity.
Make her return the item. Do not fall for the tears. Hold her hand, walk her back to wherever she took it from, and make her hand it back and apologize. The discomfort of returning a stolen item teaches a much better lesson than beating her will ever do.
Finally, I don’t know if you are a Muslim, but never underestimate the power of your own words. In our faith, we believe the prayer of a parent for a child goes straight to God without any barrier. Pray over her. Pray for her heart to be content and for her character to be straight.
Keep doing this consistently and the habit will break.
Allah knows best.
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Isaac Newton from gravity
Mendel - The AS X AA genetics guy
Faraday from Faraday's constant
Boyle from Boyle's law
All these men are renowned for their brilliance and they were all Christians
Ibn al-Haytham is the father is optics
Al-Khwarizmi gave us 1,2,3
Both Muslims
i hate when i get so overwhelmed with what’s going on around me i start unintentionally being mean. it’s my biggest ick about myself like calm down ms. attitude.
Someone was advicing me to try and marry before I clock 30, in her words “kin riga kin wuce stage din zabe, mutum ko ba nagari bane yazo gurinki Idan har yana da niyyar aure ki aure shi Sai Kiyi mai addu’a Allah ya shirye shi”