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Building the post-apocalyptic library. Aid to the birthing and the dying. Caring for the deaf and the blind, possesses treasures from the underworld.

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I'm reading about child development and it's really hitting me right now how much social systems (are built to?) distort (?)... no, more correctly--maim and mutilate--natural human processes. I want to say "infantilize" but that's an insult to infants.

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@Romy_Holland Where is the quote from?

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@mbateman I think this approach would only be effective when paired with a strong protective instinct when it’s a truly dangerous situation and he could actually hurt himself badly. I’d like to see that scenario too.

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@mbateman I’m a bit torn on this approach. On one hand kids need to expirement and learn natural limits but on the other the kid doesn’t seem to be having fun, sometimes he looks pained and like he’s performing for dad.

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@gptbrooke I love you for this.

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@estel1414 😂

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@estel1414 Strongly relate to this.

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@simonsarris People are vilified for … playing with their kids, or, not playing with their kids.

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@zmwang @cyantist You guys went to a toy store? Where are the kids?

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Trying to comfort him letting him know the stuffie can still be his favorite

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Teaching my toddler son about primates and accidentally put him in existential crisis when he learned his stuffed raccoon (favorite stuffie) is not a primate. Halp!! 🙈🙊🐒

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Like I just don’t have the level of skill to console him in this

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He’s actually sulking and wanted to stop playing

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@kathryndevaney @gptbrooke Why?

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Probably a good time to get into solar.

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@Romy_Holland It’s political, but personal first. When you have a child you really notice how few children there are for your child to play with. Today only 25% of households have children. Historically:

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@Math_files Have thought about this a lot. Especially avoiding the plague and Black Death. It’s a miracle.

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@SwipeWright I had chills reading this, Colin! Incredibly moving to read. I hope you swiftly find the love of your life and recreate the beloved family you grew up with! Definitely a candidate for Elon’s $1MM essay.

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@TheMaineWonk Crazy you can see them all get scared and move away when they suddenly realize he might be severely hurt or dead

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@Grimezsz @Aella_Girl Yes, to every part of this. The sacredness of sex after babies, and children and sex in the context of true love. The profundity you’re expressing really comes through in the feeling of your writing while the op’s response doesn’t, despite the claim.

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My experience is they think they want it and then if u say yes they get driven insane. Mostly sees like a byproduct of short term lust

That said i am like u where I don't experience jealousy so poly is sort of a non issue for me, but especially after kids my conception of sex completely changed and and then it dramatically changed when I started finally meaningfully intellectually engaging with the concept of God and then it ESPECIALLY changed after I experienced true love. Children and sex in the context of like actual true love made me realize sex is inextricably linked to the divine and I can't see it any other way now (this also counter intuitively makes sex infinitely better where normal sex now seems almost silly and pedestrian and i can hardly think to call it by the same name as divine union on every level which basically feels like touching god and being the vessel for gods greatest miracle - which is creating life. I know this sounds insane - and when I say god I don't think it needs to be in the context of established religion btw. Also just modelling stable family behavior for the kids because I want them to have a stable traditional model for love because the culture makes that hard rn even if they choose a different life later.

But counter intuitively I think a lot of men deeply inherently naturally feel this way actually - they just get lustful urges but they're actually rly sentimental i find.

as the world around me feels eaten by pathological abundance and infinite choice and every part of the culture degrades loyalty and family in exchange for consumption, I'm finding the great joy in my life is getting rid of all my clothes, eating like a monk and showing reverence to every facet of life by maxxing on the best things in it and discarding everything else and I suspect this is what fuels all this manosphere monk suffering trendiness

The main thing I liked about being poly is it really deepened friendships for me. Men seem to mostly just want sex then feel disturbed if ur having lik deep relationship with others

But as I've gotten older and more confident I find I can get that without sex and I can trip out without drugs and actually if you work harder for the deeper possible connection to any given thing- the act of effort in and of itself makes all these things even more meaningful and profound and enjoyable.

If my person required novelty that wouldn't super bother me but LOL ive noticed it can bother them.

We don't train or learn how to be in relationships and I think when u figure it out then u can easily be poly or easily not be poly but the friction in both types of relationships seems to come from people not yet knowing how to be in relationships