As Florida Governor, I'll send out a mass email to all 260,000 state employees and ask them "What did you get done this week?"
If they don't reply with 5 accomplishments, they're out.
how to make friends in a new city:
> say yes to everything for the first 3 months
> ask locals what they like to do in the area - you can follow their recs for inspiration
> when you vibe with someone, ask to hang. don't wait for them to initiate!!
> try multiple communities & events to see what resonates - don't commit to just one
> try to meet one new person at every event you go to
> you can be direct & open - "I just moved here & want to meet more people, want to grab coffee?"
> be specific about meeting up *at a specific day/time* not just some distant point in the future
> don't take rejection personally - people may be busy or have different schedules
> know that some amount of homesickness is normal - that doesn't mean you made the wrong decision
> stay in touch with your community from home so you don't feel so alone
> once you meet a few people, host small gatherings (even 4 people for dinner) - fastest way to build a friend group
> you never know if *someone* will introduce you to *someone* who becomes your new best friend. the power of network effects is real!!
> iterate over time - keep meeting new people, trying new things & have fun with it!
> give it TIME - it takes time to find your rhythm
NOW you can make friends wherever you go!!
just be intentional about finding them!!
your people are waiting to meet you!!!
you got this!!!