my reddit feed has a lot of r/texts r/relationships (blegh) with the main takeaway being a lot of people (biased sample) have concerningly little closeness with their partner and/or with themselves to the point that they go to online groups of strangers to receive from them how they ought feel or think
it is a sad state for both genders
@mudscryer nahh it's not ( i don't think )
been thinking about this too. i don't think convincing someone to date you is masculine or feminine even, it's just an insecurity thing, there really shouldn't need to be much if any convincing. and if there is a chase it better be fun