Paid to call strangers who don't want to talk to me. Ex expert network, ex headhunter, now PE deal sourcing. Phone stories, staying on the line, career advice.
Early in my current role I called a tier-one target in the Midwest.
He picked up, was sharp, and spent 20 minutes grilling me.
Who I was. Why him. Why his business.
Never once talking about selling.
Then he said, "You've had 20 minutes and you didn't convince me."
I almost called right back.
Instead I sent a personalized gift tailored to his industry, right to their doorstep.
Tried confirming receipt over phone and email but went nowhere.
Eventually, after establishing the connection, I got a LinkedIn reply:
"Thanks for the gift. Who do I address the check to?"
I said no check. How about another call.
That rapport was enough to get him to meet someone on my team.
Persistence and understanding a Tier 1 target matter. You always treat them differently than your tier twos and tier threes.
The one skill across all three of my career chapters is trust.
In expert networks, Fortune 500 C-suite executives start to feel like friends on the phone after one call.
They laugh, they open up, and the call runs 45 minutes.
In headhunting, it's not just a coffee break at their bank.
We meet in person, grab a beer, build real relationships.
With business owners, especially family-owned services companies in the lower middle market, it starts as rapport on the phone and turns into texting and long conversations.
It's a relationship, not a transaction.
When you build trust, people want to transact.
They want to talk, and they'll listen to you.
@Sam_Rosati@guessworkinvest Sure, but I'd argue the objectives need to be on paper before the LOI, not after. Otherwise you're running what the seller built instead of what you bought it to become.
@HelenGuo_ Agree, many sellers always tell me “don’t email my business email”, “don’t call the front desk”, etc.
I get it.
But what if we presented this sale as a net benefit to them? Better insurance, better benefits, higher wages, and free lunch.
@WallStreetOasis In finance, there’s nothing more important than your first internship. No joke. DM me if you want advice, I spent years as a headhunter.
@Codie_Sanchez “We tell people to diversify their investments constantly.
Don’t put all your money in one stock.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.”
Yes, however, there’s a lot of noise on X about going all in. Stick to one thing and go for it. Contrary no?
@sweatystartup This is the first page of any management playbook. I’d argue that sometimes the employee shouldn’t have the answer, and as the boss you should. You’re the veteran. But yes, have the employee give their best shot.
@BobbyBizScout Depends on who you’re hiring. Imagine it’s a platform CEO who has scaled a buy and build roll up to $100M+ of annual revenue. It’s probably worth the hire.
I pitch why an owner should sell to private equity.
They usually say “not interested”.
Then I ask, "You've never had a magic number in your head?"
Usually they laugh.
Sometimes they give me one.
Then I ask how much revenue they did last year, and they want an NDA, and we go from there.
Some never give a number.
They say they will never sell, they are not sellouts.
That attitude is part of a bigger problem with how the public sees selling to private equity and capitalism itself.
But there is always a deal that can be done, and there is always a number.