it’s wild how heartbreak feels so singular when you’re in it. like damn, how has anyone ever survived this? then you read books and listen to music and talk to people, and realise the heartbreak club is literally almost everyone in the world. nearly everyone is walking around having survived some unbearable grief or sorrow. it is impossible to live fully and come out unscathed
I think what's commendable and exceedingly rare about Macklemore's statements on Palestine is that he correctly articulates "Free Palestine" as support for Palestinian Resistance. In this follow-up statement he doesn't just say that he stands with Palestinian people - he also (and most importantly) stands for Palestinian people's "fight for their liberation". He also expresses support for the fight for self determination (by any means necessary) in Hind's Hall 2, where he declares: "Long live the Resistance if there's something to resist".
This is what true solidarity looks and sounds like. Anything less coming from those with comparable or larger influence are engaging in miseducation and cowardice.
east asians in the west have had it too good for too long post-covid. the broader resurgence of racism that came with the death of Woke 1 has largely spared us thus far.
but I fear that diasparoid striverism, stinky lunch poetry, kpop slop, and “asian train” raves have left us woefully unprepared to beat the incoming Soulless Bugman allegations that will be unleashed in full force as China’s ascendence in global affairs and frontier technology becomes undeniable
prepare accordingly
you gotta have a full life + circle of friends to return to at the end of the day and simply think of yourself as an anthropologist who’s in the field part time. that’s when the #fun begins
something i’ve noticed in a lot of what i refer to as “pink-pill” content (i.e. if he wanted to he would, etc) is that if a man loves you, you can expect x behaviour. unfortunately, i really don’t think it’s that simple. a man’s capacity for love is limited by his understanding of it. if he’s never been modelled generosity, compassion, playfulness he won’t be able to inhabit those states, no matter how much he loves you. his idea of love is limited by his capacity.
that isn’t to say that love cannot transform, it is by its very nature transformative. but that’s where one has to decide as a woman how much we actually value this man in our lives and what we are or are not willing to accept. and i think what maneesha is saying is ultimately true, but from a different angle.
i think the focus really should not be on trying to parse, through someone’s behaviour, whether or not they love us, but rather to get clear on which behaviours we are or are not willing to accept in relationship. a child’s love is pure even though there is little to nothing they can “do” for us, because the love simply “is”. but as adults we are the captains of our own fate and we get to decide what sort of life we want to build and what treatment we’re willing to accept.
i’ve seen happy couples that have been together for 25+ years where the woman in the relationship accepted early on that there was much she would have to effectively “teach” her man. this was an acceptable trade off for her because he was simply the one. it was worth it. a case could be made that if you’re unwilling to be patient with your partner as they learn how to love you, you might not love them as much as you think. obviously this entire argument goes both ways.
no one is easy to live with.
Pardon the old fashioned term but Speed is a genuine renaissance man and I say that without a shred of exaggeration. I aspire to live with this kind of vigor and worldliness