Not everyone who leaves is rejecting you. Some people leave because they’ve reached the limits of their capacity. They can’t go where you’re going. And if they stayed, the relationship would hold both of you back.
As I get older, I’m starting to realize that the purest form of love is consideration. When someone thinks about how things would make you feel. In any bond how much they care about you is found in how much they consider you.
Currently anyone in the UK can call themselves a counsellor or psychotherapist. Please sign this petition to stop this unsafe situation 🤡 https://t.co/PvSfAOHHrf
idk who needs to hear this but in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you’re innocent in the story you created.
Yes. Relationships take work. We have to work hard to not behave like a child when we’re triggered. We have to work hard to heal our pasts. We have to work hard to be accountable when we want to blame. This is why if you want a relationship, you better be willing to open up, be brave, and break patterns. Because even with the right person you’ll have to face yourself.
Major cheat code for life: Don’t wait. Take that crazy leap of faith. Say the words now. Tell people you love them. Apologize when you should. Forgive. Everything in life has an expiration date. Opportunities don’t wait until you’re ready. Miss them now and you miss them forever.
A major cheat code in life: The ability to reset fast. You're allowed to start over at 10am, 2pm, or 6:30 at night. Zero reason to let one bad hour carry into the rest of your day. You can’t control what hits you. But you can control how long you sit in it.
You are supposed to be triggered when someone mistreats, lies to, or disrespects you. having a reaction to poor treatment means your body is alive, alert, and reminding you that you deserve better.
The older I get, the more I realize:
Momentum is everything. One good day creates another. One workout leads to better eating. One hard conversation opens ten easy ones. One small win builds confidence for bigger ones. Get the ball rolling. Physics handles the rest.
Let’s be crystal clear about something:
Private pay therapists aren’t unwilling to take insurance
Insurance companies are unwilling to pay the cost of therapy
Reminder there is no such thing as TMI in therapy
Please tell me all the things relationships, sex, accomplishments, friendships, dating horror stories, SI, drugs, your inner darkest secrets, thoughts, feelings, your needs etc
TMI = tell me immediately!
@BACP#bacp website glitching again for me. It regularly doesn't work for me, especially during events. This is pretty disappointing considering hefty membership fees and the amount of resources made unavailable if the website isn't functioning...
Booking a doctor's appointment shouldn't be as difficult and stressful as it is on the NHS. Many of my clients find it a big source of anxiety. Calls are made outside of specified times and communication around this is often non existent or poor.
If you accidentally miss a call from the surgery you go to the back of the queue and aren't called back in a few minutes. Or worse, you have to rebook your appointment the next day. Why aren't patients treated as human? It's not possible to hang around your phone 24/7.
It could happen to anyone.#FactsMatter
At 11, I lost everything. My father died. My mother’s mental health collapsed. I was taken into care — and placed in a home run by paedophiles.
By 12, I was homeless, taken in by criminal gangs.
At 13, I was forced to sell drugs. I never saw a classroom.
At 14, I nearly died - heroin.
At 15, I found boxing — and hope. Managed to get back into school.
At 16, I joined the army, desperate for purpose.
At 17, I left to become a professional boxer.
At 18, I fought twice, then walked away from the ring.
At 19, I studied acting and began working in theatre and TV.
At 24, I trained in Los Angeles under Michelle Danner.
By 27, I was back in the UK, homeless, addicted, and broken.
At 28, I attempted suicide. Then I escaped — to Italy, teaching English through drama. A year later, I moved to London to act and survive.
At 30, everything changed. I met my wife. We built a home. Had a child.
At 31, I returned to education and dedicated my life to working in the care system — to fight for the children still trapped in the system that nearly killed me.
Today, at 45, I’m a best-selling author and national campaigner. I speak not only for myself — but for every young person who has been silenced, ignored, and left behind.
My story isn’t about what I survived.
It’s about what I became. Make care experience a protected characteristic.
#changeiscoming