How to Find More Personal Peace
1- Forgive Yourself
You are human. You are imperfect by nature, and your imperfection is a gift. Mistakes are an essential part of learning. Overcoming your flaws and picking yourself up when you fail is where the greatest glory and sense of accomplishment come from in this life.
I'm not telling you to settle. I am telling you to accept your imperfection and then do something about it.
Guilt is a useless emotion and comes from a dark source. Guilt causes stagnation, and if you believe in a great enemy, wouldn’t the enemy be the one most interested in you feeling guilty?
Judgment is the opposite of understanding. We only solve our problems through deep understanding of ourselves, not through judgment of ourselves. You cannot understand that which you judge.
So forgive and understand yourself. Then create the version of yourself that you wish to be.
2- Stop Making Assumptions
Assumptions are an automatic response from the brain. The brain hates incomplete pictures and will fill in the blank parts of any incomplete picture. The problem is that we accept the brain's narrative as fact and then react to the lie.
This is difficult to do and, I would say, impossible to do without a healthy distance from your thoughts and emotions. You need ample space between stimulus and reaction in order to be free to behave however you wish. If you have no space between stimulus and reaction, then you are a slave to your environment.
3- Accept This Fact: Other People’s Behavior Has Nothing to Do with You
Hard to believe, right? Even when they are directing it at you, even when they are pointing the finger and hurling insults, it has nothing to do with you.
The way that we treat people is a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. This does not mean that we have to put up with everyone. You are free to establish boundaries and remove people from your life if needed, but to take their behavior personally is a mistake.
You are just the person in front of them when their own personal pain arises. You are the safest place and most convenient outlet for their pain.
Whenever someone wrongs you, remember the punishment you want them to suffer is the life they already have. You can’t inflict more pain on someone than an immoral person inflicts on themselves.
You can’t medicate your way out of a disease that you ate your way into.
If you have to keep taking whatever drug, that’s management, NOT a cure.
You must eat your way back to health.
“Savings can be created by spending less. You can spend less if you desire less. And you will desire less if you care less about what others think of you.”
— Morgan Housel
A mentor once told me: "Discipline is simply the act of remembering who you said you wanted to be and then acting like it." The question isn't "Can you do it?" It's "Are you willing to live like the person you claim you want to become?" If the answer is yes, anything is possible.
Psychologist Stanley Milgram Found that 80% of the population do not have the psychological or moral resources to defy an authority's order, no matter how illegitimate the order is.
Therefore only 20% have critical thinking capacity.
Explains a lot about the world we live in.
You'll never eat a meal so big you never need to eat again.
You'll never sleep so good you never need to sleep again.
You'll never accomplish so big, you'll never dream again.
There's nothing wrong with you: satisfaction is always temporary.
You may have brilliant ideas, the kind that could revolutionize the world, but unless you can express them effectively, they will have no force, no power to enter people’s minds in a deep and lasting way.