You're a man.
Get out of your fucking room.
Pack your laptop and go to a coffee shop. A hotel. Rent a bnb for the weekend. Go to a different city.
Go ANYWHERE, but your room
After 37 years of age as a man, I’ve finally come to realize that the only cure to depression is just leaving the house at every single possible opportunity no matter how badly you don’t want to.
A man must build 3 things:
1. A body that can handle pressure.
2. A mind that doesn't panic.
3. A skill that creates income.
Miss one, and the others suffer.
Never show them the process. Appear effortless. The more they see your struggle, the more human you become, and humanity doesn’t inspire obedience. Hide your labor. Let the finished product look divine. Effortlessness is the perfume of power.
Sigmund Freud believed a father must be a “threat,” not a friend, or the son never fully becomes a man.
A boy is born into the world of the mother, warmth, forgiveness, safety. But maturity begins only when the father introduces limits, hierarchy, and resistance.
Freud called this the “Law of the Father”. not violence, but authority that doesn’t collapse under emotion.
When a father becomes a buddy too early, the boy never exits childhood. Historically, initiation meant separation from the mother, fear, discipline, even pain. The father was the guide into danger, responsibility, and competition.
Today that role is diluted into reassurance and endless empathy. The result is visible everywhere: grown men addicted to comfort, terrified of criticism, avoiding risk, seeking approval.
Friendship with father is possible, but only after strength is proven, not before. Until then, firmness is not cruelty. It is preparation. The world will not negotiate. A father existed to make sure his son could survive that fact.