@SteveSyme1@jess_ann_pin There’s also so much intangibility to women’s’ attraction. If you’re funny, charming, liked by others, talented at something, that makes a huge swing.
And your ability to showcase those things can vary wildly by circumstances. IMO it’s why wingmen are a thing
@jollofery@fightinbobbyl More likely she’s looking for someone with more charm, confidence and passion
Men are statistically the ones to overweight looks
@Rooke_bay@randallsquared@cinnomng1rl I saw Xander as flawed but enough courage and virtue going on that there was room for grace and growth… until he left Anya at the alter
The difference I suppose is I saw that as a lame “oh no! reboot the character growth” reset and have ejected it from my head cannon
@emilykmay There are conversations that are emotionally taxing, because everything doesn't always align and being vulnerable through that can be hard
But that’s not most of it. Most of it is marvelous. Most of it is joy
@emilykmay My marriage (16 years married, 25 years together) is a joy and a delight. “Work” is not the first word I would ever use to describe it.
I don’t want to crow about it. But I see so much marriage doom talk, I do feel like I sometimes need to say it can be support and joy
@kaleekreider@JillFilipovic 10k is still double the OP’s ceiling of 5k
To be clear, I think your budget sounds rational. Optimize but don’t cut guests or hosting
5k would require one of those things
@Codie_Sanchez I think implied in this is probably a very small guest list or something elopement adjacent
That’s not everyone’s social reality. And hosting ~150 at a party where everyone is fed + open bar is expensive. Not necessarily 100k, but more than 5k
@mattyglesias In early march 2020 I was at the grocery store stocking up on some pasta and canned goods
Overhead some ladies talking about everyone panicking
I’m thinking “I dunno, did you see what’s happening in Europe? Some extra pasta on hand seems like a good idea”
@mattyglesias For this same reason, just like no one ever thinks they’re the bad guy, no one is ever going to think they’re panicking even if they are
Someone goes into their bunker — “Don’t panic” “I’m not panicking. I’m acting appropriately for the level of threat as I understand it” 🤷🏼♀️
@mattyglesias I wish the frame were not “billionaires are evil” but “billionaires are inefficient” or possibly even “billionaires are too powerful and it messes up our politics”
And yes, fix the tax policy