Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce

Divorce recovery leader for 20+ years! Christian. Yes, you will find joy. Author "The Life-Saving Divorce": LifeSavingDivorce

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Publishers told me that a Christian book on divorce for life-saving reasons would never sell. They were wrong. It's #5 today for the Christian Counseling and Recovery category on Amazon.

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@CarterSkeel @freyaindiaa @BradWilcoxIFS @FamStudies Fair, but ‘don’t take marriage advice from people who hate their spouses’ applies to a lot of married people too.
I work with more than 6,000 devout Christians who found themselves married to a spouse who hated, abused, or betrayed them.

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@ChristianPost Christian Post oversells it. The study doesn’t show “1 key factor” or prove marriage causes kids to keep faith. It shows associations: parental modeling, faith talk, prayer, church involvement, parent-child closeness, and happy/stablemarriages all matter. In fact...

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@CarterSkeel @jessesmithsoc @JaneLankesSmith @FamStudies @WeAreCommunio When I download your report and put it on a 100-pt scale, the gap between those family types don't look so big. What is big is that even Christian parents are unlikely to have children who grow up to worship weekly in adulthood.

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@CarterSkeel @jessesmithsoc @JaneLankesSmith @FamStudies @WeAreCommunio When I download your report and put it on a 100-pt scale, the gap between those family types don't look so big. What is big is that even Christian parents are unlikely to have children who grow up to worship weekly in adulthood.

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

BOOK REVIEW: His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley Jr

This bestseller has a lot of ugly. Like most "affair-proof your marriage" books, it repeatedly blames the wife. Her body, her labor, her appearance—all framed as the husband's safeguards against sin.

https://t.co/kFxENaxC90

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

The 21 Catholic Annulment Grounds. How are they different from divorce?

Read my latest blog post: https://t.co/O6mMTWkJEq

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Many Christians forgive repeatedly, stay and pray before they divorce. Perhaps that explains why their divorces take longer than average. There's little sign of easy divorce among people in my Life-Saving Divorce Private Group. https://t.co/kbjLBnIL0G

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Christians persevere a long time before they divorce. Perhaps that explains why their divorces take longer than average. There's little sign of easy divorce among people in my Life-Saving Divorce Private Group. https://t.co/kbjLBnIL0G

[Ryan Burge 📊 @ryanburge]

Among people who have ever been married:

42% of evangelicals have ever been divorced.
It's 42% of the non-religious as well.

Catholics and those from other faith traditions have the lowest divorce rate.

Black Protestants have the highest divorce rate.

[Solo @sololoner2]

The essay below at USA Today is 100% correct.
I’m a Conservative myself, not a liberal nor a feminist.
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@GGBaskerville @sheilagregoire @BradWilcoxIFS @lymanstoneky @theisabelb @MattWalshBlog @theblaze @conservmillen

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

“Why is my spouse pushing for a FAST divorce?”

In a controlling marriage, speed can be pressure—to accept a bad settlement, rush custody decisions, or sign before you understand your rights.

See my checklist of documents to have before signing anything:
https://t.co/eAA79eqOyA

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Lord, though I walk through the Valley of the Shadow, you are with me.

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Part 4: Is Your Spouse Lying? Why Counseling Often Fails

Marriage counseling assumes good faith and truth-telling from both people, but what happens when you have a manipulative spouse?

Read my latest blog post on this topic: https://t.co/1VKJwKIG6R

#lifesavingdivorce

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Some people ask: "How could you not have known your spouse was lying?" But science shows your brain is wired to trust who you love most — and abusers exploit that.

Read more here: https://t.co/FVbuXe6CDo

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Part 3: Is Your Spouse Lying? What Behavior Actually Gives Away a Lie

Amount of eye contact and fidgeting show zero reliability for detecting lies according to research. Their calm is not evidence of honesty. The real clue is their behavioral pattern.

https://t.co/KiVZOG3AJq

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Not every pastor is safe for this conversation. 💔

Some will minimize your spouse's abuse as "communication problems" — then make your anger & your boundaries the real spiritual problem.

That is not biblical justice. That is control.

You can love God and refuse unsafe counsel.

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

The UK is repealing presumed 50/50 custody. Americans should pay attention. Custody isn't about fairness — it's about child safety. Children aren't property to be divided equally. 🕊️

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[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Many people think they can spot a liar but research shows body language is weak evidence for detecting deception.

In marriage, the stronger evidence is the pattern — repeated concealment, changing stories, gaslighting, blame.

Read my latest blog post: https://t.co/TQFpRafApg

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@pppeee122 @Change Before no-fault divorce, people were denied divorces and sent right back to their abuser for the rest of their lives.

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

Attacking no-fault divorce isn’t “child-first.” It’s historically ill-informed. Unilateral no-fault reduced wife homicide, suicide, and domestic violence. Rolling back these laws doesn’t protect families—it traps them in violence. https://t.co/MXAlYPhmlB
@Change

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@pppeee122 @Change Thank you for saying that. Anyone under 80 doesn't remember the bad old days before no-fault divorce. It's easy for them to think it was better. I have a playlist on YouTube of people's difficulties getting divorced, when they needed it the most. https://t.co/Zv40IEVqLO

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@katmarkapp @ThemBeforeUs And for others reading this and wondering about the affects of divorce on children, family research has a lot to say. Here are more than 25 quotes from the top researchers of the past 50 years: https://t.co/F6Xk6vFUde

[Gretchen Baskerville-Life-Saving Divorce @GGBaskerville]

@katmarkapp @ThemBeforeUs I’m so grateful you’re free now. You gave everything you had, and God saw the truth even when others didn’t. There are many like you—faithful, devoted parents who had to leave to survive. I’m thankful you found courage, safety, and hope. May God restore the years the locusts ate.