The only way to be happy at life, work and in general is detachment. Not worrying about outcomes or linking yourself to results and being content is the only way to lead a good life.
The less you take yourself seriously, the "luckier" you will get in life. Get rid of your pride and fear of embarrassment. Put yourself in situations where you will grow regardless of whether you feel like it or not. No one is watching, no one cares. You're gonna live your life, die, and be vaguely remembered for one or two generations if you had a loving family, that's about it.
The most talented people actually have very little ego and pride; they are ready to learn from anyone if that helps them get closer to their goals; if anything, they are only proud of their own efforts and of sticking to the highest standards in a world where people are proud of fitting in;
and the opposite is true, the most average people are full of ego and pride; they have a very strong idea of what they deserve even though they are never ready to pay the price; they look down on the amount of efforts it takes to build a wealthy life; they are quick to get offended and actually subconsciously put themselves in environments where they never have to question themselves.
I asked Albinder (Dhindsa) to leave twice after the Blinkit acquisition: Deepinder Goyal
Originally, the company was called Grofers, founded in 2014 by Dhindsa, and had tried out multiple models in grocery delivery. It was acquired in 2021–22 by Zomato for $670 mn, primarily in stock, and renamed Blinkit.
There was a lot of what used to work at the company in the old model, which was focused on next-day delivery.
But the customers and markets had changed, as with Zomato’s acquisition, Blinkit was moving to 10-minute delivery.
Goyal wanted Albinder to understand the new business and what worked for it, think “backwards” from the start, rather than superimpose what worked in the old model.
“I told him you will not be able to cut it. He said okay... this happened twice during that timeframe......and we started the transition.”
But once Dhindsa "lived" with that conversation, he started helping Goyal change the organisation over a few months, working together and began seeing outcomes in how to do things.
Now, of course, Blinkit accounts for a majority of Eternal’s $30 billion market cap, outpacing the legacy food delivery business, Zomato.
Dhindsa, who had worked at Zomato before founding Blinkit, remains the CEO of what is the largest quick-commerce player. Both Dhindsa and Goyal have also been friends since their school days, and also at IIT-Delhi together.
Goyal calls this process “rock bottom” and has implemented it with a number of top managers at the company.
“All of us have this armour. And when patient coaching runs out, I penetrate this armour. Maybe I am trying to bullshit myself here, but me being angry is also because I care.”
“I call this rock bottom, where I hurt people like their self-confidence completely goes for a toss. I do this with people who have insane potential, but something in their head is coming in their way......over time, the success rate of this is four out of five, where they come out of it.”
“I carry the guilt of the one that doesn’t come out..... but statistically, going through the process made four out of five folks superbly great and are leading the organisation.”
What is Goyal looking for in this process?
“I wait for them to put the introspection hat on, learn what they need to do, and bounce back.”
In theory, it should get easier and easier to take risks as you get wealthier; in practice, most people get addicted to more and more comfort, they keep upgrading their lifestyle instead of upgrading who they are, they are afraid of wasting time doing activities that might not be deemed worthy by their wealthy peers, they slowly become conscientious of status, they start worrying about what they are "supposed to do," and despite being free to do anything, they actually struggle to fully devote themselves to something that they truly care about.
Great outcomes usually require trade-offs and sacrifices, but you don't have to neglect your physical and mental health;
too many people are somehow proud of not having enough time to sleep, exercise, enjoy their meals, watch their kids grow, share meaningful conversations with their family and friends;
many unhappy people love to say the contrary, but it's entirely possible to reach your goals and enjoy the journey too, you just need to understand your strengths better than anyone else;
don't wait until you are old to realize that you spent your whole life walking on a path that someone else wanted you to walk.
The best teachers are also the most avid learners.
You can't convey love of learning if you don't love learning yourself.
Your students don't learn from what you say, but from who you are.
You want to build a clearer mind, you just need to figure out how to keep moving forward in spite of the uncertainty. There is no growth without friction. Your fears are actually there to guide you towards who you could be.
It's only human to sometimes feel confused about what you want from life, that's why having clear-minded true friends is such a blessing, they see the parts of yourself that you can hardly observe yourself, and they will call you out when you are about to make the wrong decision.
Chase your desired lifestyle, not your desired title. People are blinded by status and labels. Once you release the need for a specific title, there is almost always an easier path to living your preferred lifestyle.
- @JamesClear
There is no higher anxiety than watching the years pass and not getting the progress you know you should be getting. Healthy work-life balance involves more work than most people think. Peace of mind doesn't come from doing nothing, it comes from active risk-taking and execution.
The wealthier you are, the easier it is to take calculated risks; yet, most people become more risk-averse, because a comfortable lifestyle dulls the mind, it numbs your courage, until one day, you wake up, and realize you achieved the most when you were young, ignorant, foolish.