Guys are so desperate and most obsessed with getting a girlfriend between 20-30 when that’s the time you should instead be maximizing chaos, uncertainty and freedom.
Just relax on your desperate urge to “lock someone down” and take life as it comes. The harder you try, the more you push the outcomes you want further away.
Everyone who has a girlfriend didn’t have a strong intention to make it happen ASAP. It just happened to them naturally.
Nobody cares about men. We are either tax cattle or war fodder. Nobody will even remember or care if a man dies. His woman will find another and his grave will go unattended. That is why a man should be radically selfish and love himself more than everyone and everything in the world. A man has himself and that is more than enough. Don’t give up. Turn with the world and shine with the sun. Chin towards God.
The internet is quick to forget. You think you’re special until you realize another 8 billion people also think they’re special. You’re not. Let this thought free you. Nothing is important. Everything matters. That “mistake” you made changed the trajectory of your entire life, which changed the life of your spouse (or future spouse), which changed the life of your kids, and your kid’s kids. That “mistake” changed your career, so you never met your future boss and instead you became your own boss. That “mistake” led you to a minor menty b, so you decided to say fuck it and move across the country. Nothing was the same after that. Your life got better in ways you never dreamed possible. That “mistake” led you to the love of your life. All I’m saying is … the internet doesn’t give a sh*t about you. It doesn’t care what you do or don’t do. Now is the time to lay it all out there. Whatever happens (even if NOTHING happens) your life will change bc one day you decided to post on x dot com. Or Instagram or TikTok or whatever floats your boat. Don’t worry about being perfect. Be yourself, and watch your life unfold. Let yourself be surprised and delighted by what happens. If you’re not making “mistakes” you’re not doing it right.
Just do more.
You will adapt. Your body will adapt. Your mind will adapt.
You can just simply do more and figure it out along the way. Most things in life simply bend to the virtue of volume. Everything is learnable, you are adaptable and the universe is endlessly malleable.
SPEED.
The amount you can get done in a day if you never stop working, never stop thinking, never stop seducing, texting, organising, vibing etc is fucking insane. The amount you can achieve within a day is genuinely reality bending. Your life can improve so much every day.
as i get older i realize the biggest epidemic is dudes with no real identity
if running gets cool they become runners. if tattoos get cool they cover themselves in tattoos. if being sober trends they become born again monks, mullet, coffee snob, golfer, carnivore, cowboy, whatever the algorithm tells them
whole personality built out of social contagion
thats why these dudes get smoked at everything. everyone can smell the fraud
no weight behind anything they do because none of it came from their soul. just trend hopping
be something real even if its ugly
Students often don't realize that after they graduate, the game eventually becomes 100% about what they've *actually done* and 0% about what they have the "potential" to do -- and this transition happens faster than they expect.
This can be a hard truth for students who get used to hearing "you're going to do great things" and then never take action.
But it's a welcome truth for those who are willing to put in serious work to get serious results.
It should come NATURALLY for a man to want to have fun with you, take you out, feed you, do nice things for you, and compliment you.
You should never have to teach someone to do that.