People who lack communication skills will say you're trying to argue. People who lack the emotional intelligence to understand your depth will say you're too sensitive. Don't let them gaslight you into thinking "Something's wrong with me" when they project their lack onto you.
I think if someone has hurt you, taken full accountability and has clearly grown, it’s unfair to keep bringing up the past. however, if they still show the same triggering behaviours or patterns that led to your hurt, it’s fair to refer to the past. it means there was no change.
I keep my distance from people who don’t recognise a pattern within themselves, and how it negatively impacts their connections. it doesn’t matter if they say they are working on it, only their actions are evidence of true change to me. otherwise cycles just continue with them.
when you’re dishonest or withhold the whole truth, you take away someone’s informed consent. honesty matters. emotional integrity matters. standing on your word matters. all of it matters.
I think when you’re transitioning from being a people pleaser to someone with more boundaries it’s so weird, because it’s hard to tell if you’re being mean or if you’re just listening to your own feelings because you’re so used to this only thinking about others
And when you pray tonight…pray for the ability to reciprocate. You really need to start showing up for people as much as they show up for you. People make time for who they want and your excuses will no longer cut it. They get busy but always make time for you. Do the same.
If you grind hard everyday but simultaneously abandon your own needs, avoid your inner work, and do not take care of your body - you’re hustling backwards. The real work is inclusive of you.