I want to agree in part and disagree in part.
Firstly, whether she is a good woman or not, is beside the point. If you choose someone, you have a responsibility to them to love and to cherish.
The whole point of relationship/marriage is to do life together. This means that everything we have and everything we are, is for our mutual benefit and for the benefit of this relationship/family. Worthy of note is that, it is the responsibility of a father to give their child good education. I'm putting myself in the position of a child and the position of a father - the answer is the same. It is whom you are, that you bring to the relationship to invest in your partner and the relationship.
It is dangerous to teach women that they should go into relationships looking for a man to sponsor their life. It is dangerous to teach men that they have a responsibility to train women in school. It is dangerous to tell parents that their daughters would be trained by the man who chooses to date them. Unintentionally, you are pushing for the ownership of women because when someone lives with the mentality that he has to carry all your responsibility and improve your life, he develops the mindset that he owns you, because you're not doing anything for him.
The advice you give to young boys are meant to be given to parents. Let us encourage responsible parenting. The whole point of relationship is to love, not to parent. Young men are already under a lot of financial pressure. Parenting is a live time responsibility. You don't retire from it.
Having said that, I'm always conscious of privilege. Not every parent has the financial capacity to train their kids to the highest level. If you willingly choose to date someone, you have a responsibility to them to love and to cherish, and that includes investing in their growth. If you choose an uneducated, partly educated, 1st degree holder, you can make the best investment that improves your partner and the overall wellbeing of the home because when your partner wins, you win. The major problem with that tweet is that, even by omission, we are teaching women that it is not their responsibility to invest in men. Woman also have a responsibility to invest in their man's growth and to do regular shopping for them. You can't tell the man to invest in his woman's education be suse he will benefit from it, while not telling women the same thing. Will the woman not benefit from investing in her man?
To love is to GIVE love and to RECEIVE love. Please love by GIVING and TAKING.
- Chimamanda Adichie
We need to teach NIGERIAN women to love and to give, because most relationships are already one sided and unrequited. That is not love.
🚨 @David_Ornstein: “Real Madrid are operating on the basis that RODRI WILL COME.
Maybe that’s getting ahead of themselves, or maybe that’s reality.
Manchester City want him to renew; but there’s no sign of that.”
Happy to see Mykhailo Mudryk back playing football for Chelsea. ❤️
No matter what club you support, seeing a player return after such a difficult period is always good for the game. Football is at its best when stories like this get a positive ending.
Credit to Chelsea as well for standing by him throughout the entire journey instead of turning their backs on him. Loyalty matters.
Welcome back, Mudryk. Football is beautiful. ❤️
🚨🇭🇺 Dominik Szoboszlai has agreed to sign new FIVE year deal at Liverpool, valid until June 2031!
Verbal agreement in place with final details being sorted ahead of signature and official statement.
Szoboszlai stays, fully committed to #LFC new project under Andoni Iraola 🔴🔐
🚨🚨 EXCLUSIVE: ARNE SLOT AND LIVERPOOL TO PART WAYS WITH IMMEDIATE EFFECT. 💣
It’s over between the Dutch manager and Liverpool after end of the season review. 👋🏼
Andoni Iraola, clear favorite to take over as next #LFC head coach.
Graduated from @TechSphereAcad today🎉
Big thanks to @Wizarab10 for the scholarship and to everyone who supported me.
Now a certified Cybersecurity Analysts, many more certs ahead
I’m Paul Damilola Emmanuel. Open to internships & opportunities
#TSAcademyGraduate#Cybersecurity
It’s hard, maybe even unfair… but I’m grateful this is happening to me here, among you. I’m not alone. Your strength and your love will be my driving force. See you again soon, Anfield ❤️